Where do young men like to hang out?

[Incognito]

I am surprised that no one mentioned [not] actively looking for a guy. When you look too hard you seem desperate and risk overlooking someone who might be great for you just because they don't immediately fit your criteria. IMO the best method is to simply enjoy life, and being really active in whatever you like doing. That way you'll be enjoying your time instead of getting frustrated because you didn't find someone. Not to mention that when you actually meet someone you will more than likely have one thing in common (whatever you were doing). To sum it up, you are more likely to find someone when you aren't looking.

[filler]

You should take a college class (you can go back as a postgrad) in an area you have an interest and you'll probably meet some nice guys. You could take a PE class in horseback riding, hiking, running, etc.

WOW that's a great idea thank you !!

[andstuff]

Online dating is filled with men and women. Not just sad single guys. I met my GF through online so please don't generalise because that is stupid

But isn't it sad even to get an account on one of those? Isn't it admitting you're some kind of a loser? No one I know uses them. Who wants some desperate single labelling themselves as looking?

[Incognito]

Aren't most single people "looking"? Being labeled as such on a dating website is not demeaning, it is honest and helpful.

[andstuff]

Aren't most single people "looking"? Being labeled as such on a dating website is not demeaning, it is honest and helpful.

surely there are people who don't need to pay ridiculous money to get listed as single and looking but who are somehow good at finding the right person free of charge? besides, in normal life things happen naturally, people get introduced to people for a billion reasons, then stuff happens (or not)

people from top to high categories of desirability would not even consider paying for a profile, so they are just not represented at those kind of websites, so there're none to be found. even though well average is a match for average, so i guess there's no harm in them using those sites and filling the pockets of people who own them

also, i'd rather shoot myself than admit i'm looking. looking= desperate, have seen enough of those numbers, they are just sad and pitiable, no wonder no one goes for them

[Incognito]

Everyone has their own hang ups, and this is obvious one of yours. If online dating isn't for you then fine, it isn't for you, but saying that "looking = desperate" is stupid. If you are single and don't like being alone then you are "looking", whether or not you are listed as such in a single ad or online makes no difference. You ASSumption that "top category people" (I'm guessing you mean successful or rich) don't use dating sites is also false. Many rich, successful people use dating sites because of the ease of meeting many people without wasting time or spending much money, especially businesspeople who travel a lot.

So you can go shoot yourself when you're dying from loneliness and are too stubborn to be "looking". Ha, where is boredgeorge? He would suggest serving the ladies tea and cakes to find someone. And surfhb would just tell you to sleep with his mother like he does every night (not on Thursdays though... she's all mine on Thursdays, but I'm willing to share if you buy the purple socks, marshmallows and disposable enemas).

[andstuff]

You ASSumption that "top category people" (I'm guessing you mean successful or rich) don't use dating sites is also false.

by top category i meant self-sufficient and in the creative vein, preferably talented. like, julian from the strokes was top notch a few years ago.... or i don't know.... thurston moore in the early 80s. if you happen on someone similar on dating sites give me ring, but dont believe an occasion will present itself

incidentally, do you really believe it was a good thing to say all those things about me personally when i didn't say anything about anyone in particular? i think what you need to do is goole "inappropriately strong negative emotional response from a perceived personal insult" (perceived being the keyword)

if i was looking for some white collar or IT geek with no clue about sexual techniques, then who knows. but i have been loved by a musician and have had lovesongs (good ones too) written about me. he was awesome and had this feminine side, no ideology, no statement, almost anti-male. and a dark side to resonate with mine too. the only reason it fell apart was my moving to another country and he sort of went downhill because of drugs and it was just useless picking the whole thing up. so you see, this is top notch. having a spiritual karmic bond is top notch. online dating isn't. so you see i''d rather be single then get laid with some random person who has no chance of having "angels are dreaming of you" said about him. funnily enough, i'm not afraid of competition against other girls

[Incognito]

You can generalize all you want but there are rich, poor, talented, untalented, smart and stupid people who use online dating sites. I think I ever only used one such site and it wasn't a "dating site" per se, and I was around 17 anyway (long long time ago). I didn't perceive a personal insult, I simply perceived you demonizing a perfectly acceptable medium because of your own feelings and hang ups. As I stated before, it is fine if online dating isn't for you because of whatever reason, but making it known on a dating site that you are "looking" isn't desperate. It is using a system/tool for a purpose and labeling oneself and making your intentions clear help you to achieve your goal and help others who are also using said system. Thinking that all online dating site users are "white collar IT geeks" shows your ignorance, bias, and possibly even a superiority complex.

Oh, and all of that drivel in the last paragraph was supposed to mean what?

[vashti]

by top category i meant self-sufficient and in the creative vein, preferably talented. like, julian from the strokes was top notch a few years ago.... or i don't know.... thurston moore in the early 80s. if you happen on someone similar on dating sites give me ring, but dont believe an occasion will present itself

incidentally, do you really believe it was a good thing to say all those things about me personally when i didn't say anything about anyone in particular? i think what you need to do is goole "inappropriately strong negative emotional response from a perceived personal insult" (perceived being the keyword)

if i was looking for some white collar or IT geek with no clue about sexual techniques, then who knows. but i have been loved by a musician and have had lovesongs (good ones too) written about me. he was awesome and had this feminine side, no ideology, no statement, almost anti-male. and a dark side to resonate with mine too. the only reason it fell apart was my moving to another country and he sort of went downhill because of drugs and it was just useless picking the whole thing up. so you see, this is top notch. having a spiritual karmic bond is top notch. online dating isn't. so you see i''d rather be single then get laid with some random person who has no chance of having "angels are dreaming of you" said about him. funnily enough, i'm not afraid of competition against other girls

"Top category" and "musician with a feminine side, no ideology, no statement, almost anti-male" might be considered oxymorons to a lot of people. lol

[Incognito]

Forgot all about that part Vashti. I'd peg a man with those qualities as a closeted homosexual. I guess "top category" means different things to different people...
Then again this poster strikes me as a troll anyway. Oh wait, oh wait.... did you see this?>>>>

...it fell apart was my moving to another country and he sort of went downhill because of drugs and it was just useless picking the whole thing up. so you see, this is top notch.

A closeted homosexual who abuses drugs?!?! Wow.... Top notch for sure!!! LMAO!!!

[vashti]

With all those "top notch categories", he damned well BETTER know how to f*ck, because he doesn't sound like he's good for much else. :-)

[Wakeup]

With all those "top notch categories", he damned well BETTER know how to f*ck, because he doesn't sound like he's good for much else. :-)

Oh, that made me lol :o)

[andstuff]

"Top category" and "musician with a feminine side, no ideology, no statement, almost anti-male" might be considered oxymorons to a lot of people. lol

well i believe the discussion is turning fruitless. + i said that the romance was top notch not the person. but top notch romance is not possible with bland people thats all

With all those "top notch categories", he damned well BETTER know how to f*ck, because he doesn't sound like he's good for much else. :-)

emotional resonance? ever heard about that? spiritual need? am i speaking a foreign language?

[Incognito]

andstuff : "you wear my underwear, use drugs and are otherwise a douche, but I absolutely love our spiritual connection, in between drug sessions and masturbating to men's porn magazines that is".

Please just stop posting. You sound like some fruitcake whose mother was tripping off acid when she was pregnant with you.

[andstuff]

Keep your fervour within limits, Incognito, you're not entitled to telling me what to do. if you think a feminine side means wearing womens underwear and fondness of gay porn, then you're laughable and pitiable. I wish you with all my heart to get dumped for who you call douchebags for the rest of your life, but they probably wouldn't want your boring women anyway so this is not gonna happen, sad innit

Maybe there is a world out there where boring bland desperate men with no notion of beauty or the absolute would lick girls' feet, buy them crap and be loyal in any other sense to make sure they don't leave, but i don't want to be part of it.