Confused by this girl. Playing hard to get?

**shadowhunter** · 12-05-12, 09:34 PM

I am seeing this girl and I am confused on what to be doing now. We had our first kiss 2 weeks ago, and I told her I wanted to keep seeing her. We tried to make plans for last week but it was her birthday and she said she had plans with her girlfriends, plus she was working a bit. I do not want to make it look like I am desperate I just really like this girl and she got me on the hook haha. Before last weekend i told her last thursday(last week) I had plans for us to hang out, but she didnt respond to me until the following saturday and saying she was sorry for this but she was working full time and she cant do it this weekend. then I don't respond to it until sunday evening and said " yeah crazy weekend lol"(it was for me) then she asks how was my weekend I respond but its not until the next morning she responds. I gave her a call that morning but no answer and she texts me and says something like sorry she is at work. I didn't text back for a while and then i asked her how was work and she never responded. weird. I went to her work on wednesday because i was in the mall that day and she seemed fairly happy to see me. I told her i just came to say hi and we should hang out soon and she agreed. After that I basically went on. I'm not sure what to do now, I want to try and make plans again or should I wait until she texts me? We have been seeing each other for about 2 months now, it started slow because it was just before exam week so we just saw each other at school we went out once in between that. I keep thinking to myself if I leave her alone she will forget about me or get with someone else. she playing it good lol.

**smackie9** · 13-05-12, 01:35 AM

That is not how it works. If you ignore her, and you don't hear from her, that doesn't mean she has forgotten about you, it means she is not that interested in you. She knows you like her, you told her you want to keep seeing her so the message is out there.

Since she seems to be too busy, has too many plans, and never has time after work, that would tell me she isn't that interested in you. She isn't playing hard to get....hard to get there is usually flirting and teasing involved. I'm guessing there hasn't been any of that. Don't ever expect a girl to communicate to you about stuff like this, as you discovered. If you have to struggle to get any action, then it's not going to happen. Time to move on.

BTW you haven't been "seeing" this girl for 2 months......you have known this girl for 2 months and have just hung out together....there is a big difference. This is not a relationship by any means.

**Cerby** · 13-05-12, 02:12 AM

/Agree with Smackie, if she was interested she would find a way to make time. She seems to "always" be busy, and that is a very bad sign as far as potential relationship goes. Ignore her, but just for the purpose of leaving her behind. If she starts contacting you again, then great, and if not, now is as good a time as any to forget about her.

**shadowhunter** · 13-05-12, 02:14 AM

Well, there has been flirting in the past i didn't mention that but yeah I will ignore her i guess.

**smackie9** · 13-05-12, 02:41 AM

Originally Posted by shadowhunter

Well, there has been flirting in the past i didn't mention that but yeah I will ignore her i guess.

"in the past" but not now right? Things changed when you wanted something serious right? Some girls just do this for attention and have no intention of it going any further.

**smackie9** · 13-05-12, 02:42 AM

please read this, [url]http://www.relationshiptheory.com/2009/03/17/the-ladder-theory/[/url]

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