Hello guys.
This is kind of a follow-up from this one - [URL="http://www.loveforum.net/threads/65221-We-re-10-minutes-apart-and-we-re-both-sitting-alone-at-home.-And-it-s-frustrating."]We're 10 minutes apart, and we're both sitting alone at home. And it's frustrating.[/URL], which I just posted a few days prior.
So, i've been dating this girl for about six months, until she yesterday called it of by saying she sees me more as a friend and told me that her feelings had just been going downhill lately. I really didn't know how to respond as it pretty much came as a surprise. She said she really still wanted us to be friends, because I've turned out to be one of her best friends and one of the few people she knows who she can be 100% herself with. In that moment I told her that I understand, and that we can still be friends, but that's not what I really want. After we talked we still hung out for like 5 hours, still pretty weird seeing as I couldnt kiss her and all the usual stuff.
But I started thinking (when I was still at her place), that I really need to get over her if she really is over me. So after we had just dropped the subject, I brought it up again saying:
"Listen, to make it a lot easier for me to lose the feelings for you, you will have to tell me that you are 100% certain that this is what you want, and that you will never have any feelings for me again."
then she replied with "Are you really sure that will help?"
and she kinda hesitated, and I told her
"Just do it, it will be a lot easier for me."
and then she hesitantly said "Hm.. alright.. I've been thinking about it a lot and I'm sure, and I will never have the same feelings for you as I once had.",
and at that moment I got a bit shocked, as I was hoping she wouldn't be able to say it.
I do (partially) understand that this is a lost cause, but usually when something like this happens I just think that it's for the better, and I get over it. But I really do not want to get over her, at all. I'm afraid that she is misinterpreting her feelings, seeing as she is not good at interpreting her feelings at all.
I really want to take a last stand and just try to convince her that what we have is really special, and she knows that. But the last month we haven't had much time to hang out with as we've had a lot of tests and finals, and I'm just afraid that she has forgotten how amazing our relationship and friendship is, and I just want to try to make her understand that she will probably regret this. Our relationship is the most serious relationship she has ever had, so I just dont hope that she is misinterpreting and thinking that just because the "honey-moon"-phase is over, she thinks all her feelings are gone aswell.
So, to my question: Is there any chance that I can change ANYTHING? Her birthday is coming up in 5 days, and I'm usually quite romantic and I've painted her a nice (put really homemade) picture, and I've been thinking about writing her a old fashioned letter, where I try to set focus on her feelings and the feelings she had before, where I just tell everything as I feel it. I know I have a lot of influence on her if I try to convince her, but please give me some tips. I want to remind her of what we've had for a really long time. I want to tell her that it's not always going to be action in a relationship.
Please give me any advice, I REALLY want to fight for this girl, whatever it takes. I'm simply not ready to give her up yet, atleast not until I've tried everything. I've got nothing to lose, because I know that I can't be friends with someone I have feelings for when it's not mutual.
TL;DR: Girl says she will never have the same feelings for me again, I'm willing to fight to win her back over, is there anything I can do?
Thanks for reading,
19-year old.