For 30 year old guys who are mid-career professionals

[iamaninnocentma]

yeah i take it back about vinceo, id rather be adopted by indi and vashti, in some weird lesbian adoption. its 2012 vince, you can talk and reason with children. its not the army, raising a child. hitting a child, for any reason, shows a lack of education and parenting skills.

[haxan]

You can look at an LTR/marriage like a pie chart. There's several different dynamics of life that people want, but each person puts their dynamics in their own priority. Most logical people try to match up with a person that's a good fit and has the same desires out of life and give it a go.

Where you start running into problems is that what's important to people can change over time. People's personalities don't necessarily change, but they become different as they grow through life experiences. This is where high school/college sweethearts end up with problems. They're not the same people 15-20 years later, often times ending in divorce, or just two people living together out of obligation, that don't even like or want to even necessarily be around each other anymore.

It's part matching up who's a good fit for you, and part just plain luck that it lasts and stays good. Best formula is to wait until you've established yourself, had some life experience, then find a good match, someone who's looking for the same things in life, and hopefully it works.

[IndiReloaded]

id rather be adopted by indi and vashti, in some weird lesbian adoption.

Unfortunately for us, we like men. I'd invite you to apply for pool boy status, but we are both pretty done w/ the geeky Big Bang Theory types. In my next life I'd like to date a fireman. Not sure about Vash, you'll have to ask her.

[smackie9]

Guys, if you are in the 30s and have a busy lifestyle coping with work, what is your take in relationship? Would you super super invested or like a woman so much that you contact her every day like what you did during your teenage years? I have heard those deep, romantic love slowl dies away as guys age... Is it true for you? Do you behave in a calm manner and only chat her up every other days when you are free? Becos you still have to handle nasty situations at work... So work is
top priority. Is this relationship healthy?

Everyone is different when it comes to dating and is based on personality. Sometimes the guy is like popcorn going off in a microwave, and for others it's like a casual cup of java. Another reason for the lack of interest is just that....not that interested. If it's not workin for ya look for someone else instead of guessing.......you looking for passion? Find yourself a passionate type guy.