First time and I can't stay hard

[Banjoman]

I am way too old to be a virgin. I didn't plan to stay one this long but it happened and that's just the way it is. Lately I've started dating a girl that I like quite a bit and everything is going great until we try to have sex. I apparently have a talent for licking and fingering her (or at least she says I do) but when it comes time to actually do it I can't get hard. I know I'm just nervous but how do I get over that?

[andy1981]

Talk to her.....tell her the situation....stop putting yourself under pressure. She seems to enjoy what you are doing to her in foreplay so concentrate on that.....tell he what you like and see if she will do that for you to help

Good luck

[bulrush]

This is pretty common. Don't worry about it.

To get over being nervous, practice doing what you are nervous about. Just keep practicing sex, and stop thinking about sex. Just lie on top of her naked, talk for a while, caress her hair, kiss her neck, or just cuddle and rest naked. Don't expect your body to respond, and things will eventually happen naturally. Just go slow and relaxed.

Sometimes I feel more relaxed with her on top, and me on my back. Try that. Just talk and kiss and don't expect sex. But if it happens it happens.

And use come kind of lube if you need to. There's no reason why either of you should get chafed. Don't use any oils with condoms. If the condom is bothering you, try a thinner condom. List of condom thicknesses here: [url]http://redd.it/oupp3[/url]

[smackie9]

Try a little alcohol and some porn....you won't have a problem after that.....well maybe coming out of the gate too fast. (pun intended).