Why doesn't he ejaculate?

[Mimi876]

my boyfriend and I just started having sex but whenever we do, he doesn't cum at all....I asked him about it and he just said " because I'm good like that" but when I continue asking he told me that it's not that easy for him to cum....I've never experienced this b4 so it's making me very uncomfortable....he also does not switch up positions when we have sex, could it be that he's just inexperienced or somn....wanted to see if anybody could shed some light on this

[surfhb]

He's not relaxed enough Id say.

[Mimi876]

Never thought about that

[boobaa]

Relaxation is a key.

And he knows he has issues cumming, so he does not want to change position bechause he is afraid he will lose the momentum (most likely also inexperienced and shy to do it). But the anxiety of the expectation to cum is ruining it anyway.
Tease him and hold him back for some time. Let him smell your scent and touch your juices, but don't touch his genitalia nor have sex (around areas are ok). Then have sex.


Also, for me, I have really hard time to cum when I've been drinking (alc or no, doesnt matter) and all of a sudden in the sexy time I need to take a piss. When hard on already achieved, I don't even notice it before I've lost my hardy, but its not alowing me to cum properly. So this might be the issue also, and it adds anxiety.

[Mimi876]

Thank you....well this is certainly giving me some insight....I feel better now:-)

[AdminOnline]

switch different position...so it won't get boring.

[Mimi876]

Makes sense

[oldskool83]

not relaxed more so not trusting of the other person, dif positions normal relax people, maybe looking at your face and body from the top gets his mind not focused on finishing, try somthing else. not saying it has anything to do with your looks either, its truely a comfort metal issue in his mind....its honestly not you. anythinghe says is just a cover up for the problem.

[HDBadger]

People aren't saying it because they don't want to be blunt, but you might be bad in bed.

I'd say that, unless he has health problems, it's your lack of skill that's the issue. This doesn't always directly correlate to looks, either. He can be physically attracted to you, and your skill can still be lacking. Most women (despite what they think) aren't great at getting guys off. I would talk about this with him.

[searock]

The OP said it's never happened to her before that a guy wouldn't ejaculate... sounds unlikely that *she* is the problem.

[Mimi876]

Lack of skills...hmmm??....wouldn't it also mean he's lacking in skills too?..... It takes two to tango....so if I'm bad in bed then so is he:-/..... That's the way I see it

[cast no shadow]

People aren't saying it because they don't want to be blunt, but you might be bad in bed.

I'd say that, unless he has health problems, it's your lack of skill that's the issue. This doesn't always directly correlate to looks, either. He can be physically attracted to you, and your skill can still be lacking. Most women (despite what they think) aren't great at getting guys off. I would talk about this with him.

Common, how bad can she be?
Don't take it hard, but guys are pretty easy.. I don't remember anything like that..
From my experience the guy will cum even if you just lie down and do nothing, unless his too drunk or preoccupied.

[vashti]

Most women (despite what they think) aren't great at getting guys off.

Sounds like *someone* watches too much porn.

Mimi - this is called erectile dysfunction, and it is not uncommon, and will become increasingly common as the men you date grow older.

Common causes of erectile dysfunction are alcohol, medications (especially anti-depressants), medical conditions that impair circulation (such as diabetes), too much wanking to porn, and anxiety.

It's not about you.

[joshuaty2010]

I think he has erectile dysfunction. Why you had suggest him to use male enhancement supplements.

[HDBadger]

If you want to ignore the possibility that the problem is you, go ahead. But then you obviously aren't too concerned about figuring this out.

Guys have different threshold levels for getting off. What might have been acceptable for past partners could be insufficient now.

But hey, if you want to ignore honest advice because you don't like how it sounds, be my guest.