First of all thank you all for taking your time to read this. It's a complicated situation and I am utterly confused and unsure as to how to approach it.
Let me give you the rundown. Ill try and be as brief as possible.
- I am 22 and currently in my last of year at University.
- She is 20 and in her second year at university
- We've got the same group of friends and thus hang around in the same place with the same people most of the time.
- She's not British and she's got a boyfriend who she says she loves and has been with for the past 2 years back in her own country.
The whole thing started off really casual. She would come to a party, we would both drink and we would eventually end up flirting. One thing led to another and we eventually hooked up. We did it without protection. It was OK for me as i thought i was just having fun and didn't think much of it. In the back of my mind i knew she cheated on her boyfriend but I understood the fact that shes in a different country with people she dosent know and that she possibly felt lonely. So i didnt think she was a slut or anything.
We continued seeing each other and started sleeping together pretty much every time we saw each other. Occasionally she would go back to her country and see her
boyrfiend who didn't know about me. She was keeping it a secret and told me she was sleeping with him without protection. Which made me cringe. I didn't think that was right of her to do and though that,potentially, she could be putting both of our lives at risk. Luckily i got tested and everything was fine. But the fact of the matter remains.
The whole thing moved on and we continued seeing eachother. I got really drawn to her because she seemed like a really nice, caring and loving person and the sex was great. I soon found out that when she starts drinking at parties she gets off the rails and starts doing really, really, really slutty things. Like she would tongue kiss another girl in front of everybody just for a show and she would stick her tongue down my friend's ears. I know this sound ****ing ridiculous, but as they say love is blind.
So i turned a blind eye to that. She told me numerous times she loved me and i told her i loved her too. Which i did. One night - she goes out with her friends and brings back another man to her house. I know that because my friends were at her house that particular night and they told me about it. I confronted her about it and told her that you cant tell someone you love them and go off and do things like that. I also told her about her off the rails behaviour when she gets drunk. Ofcourse she started defending herself and denying it, saying it never happened - but i know it did. She also said that she didnt have sex with that man,even though they were in her room for hours.
So my question to you all is.... WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?! Im leaving London in a month to go work somewhere else and she's staying here. I really do have feelings for her and i want to be able to come next year and visit my friends who still study in University and have a good time.... But... what should i do?
Shall i just ignore her?
Please help me... im really lost and I dont really know who to ask :-(