Dont know what to think..

[dscomp]

So I havent heard from my g/f for 4 days. Shes been interstate a few months & I know is working 6-7 days/wk, and approx 12 hrs a day, but isnt this a bit odd? I mean no email, no SMS, no phone call..nothing. For a while now Ive been sending her the odd message or email just to say I love you or how was your day but I felt (& im sure she felt) I was sounding a little clingy so I decided a few days ago I'll just not message her & wait until I hear from her..ie I know shes busy & even her own family hardly get to see her as she works nights then has an hour drive to work & an hour drive home at 3am..& she often cant reply to me as it is anyway..at least not immeditaly..so I figured ok I'll give her some space & shake off the 'clingy' feeling at the same time..

But she is trying to come here to see me again for a 2 week break (with a view to moving here with me) & has been working night & day to pay off some money she owes (a fine) so she can leave the state, (which I helped her with a week or so ago to pay off) & now shes waiting for all the red tape to go through so she can board a plane (she said she tried to board a flight here last week but was stopped at the gate as she didnt have the clearance & spent the next week seeing the various departments to get the all clear (shes waiting on them calling her to tell her its ok to go)..so yea is it just me? Am I just being paranoid or should I just relax & know she will call when she gets the ok as she said she will? maybe its just me but no matter how busy I was I would always make sure I took at least 5 mins a day to say hi or I love you? When I do get to talk to her she always says I love you & I cant wait to be there but I dont know what to think?

in the past if I havent contacted her after say 2-3 days I will usually get a msg from her saying hi or how have you been, etc..either a call or an email or something..just its been 4 days now & im determined not to contact her unless I hear from her first..

Its driving me nuts wondering though..

[Ratfish256]

Im not sure what to tell you. I'll be pulling for you though.

[hopelesromantic]

I think it's easy to let your mind wonder and in time jump to the wrong conclusions about your g/f’s intentions.

Trust me I have been there before, you don’t hear from them for a while, and you start wondering if you have done something wrong, or if their feelings have changed.

Working 12 hours a day she’s going to be rather distracted with work. Work can become all consuming, (I’m currently working 10.5 hr days which leaves little time for anything else)

Your determination not to contact her may mean you don’t hear from her for a while if she’s really swamped with work. - Send her a txt just saying “Thinking of you” It’s a neutral statement that won’t get the wrong response. You won’t be seen as clingy.

Patience is called for in this case, I know it’s hard to bare. But be strong and you’ll come through it.

[dscomp]

I think it's easy to let your mind wonder and in time jump to the wrong conclusions about your g/f’s intentions.

Trust me I have been there before, you don’t hear from them for a while, and you start wondering if you have done something wrong, or if their feelings have changed.

Working 12 hours a day she’s going to be rather distracted with work. Work can become all consuming, (I’m currently working 10.5 hr days which leaves little time for anything else)

Your determination not to contact her may mean you don’t hear from her for a while if she’s really swamped with work. - Send her a txt just saying “Thinking of you” It’s a neutral statement that won’t get the wrong response. You won’t be seen as clingy.

Patience is called for in this case, I know it’s hard to bare. But be strong and you’ll come through it.

Thank-you. And I think you're right. I just called her now (my curiosity got the better of me) & she was walking out the door to go to work again & we chatted for 5 mins before she had to drive off. She sounded happy & said she would call me when she got to work. I guess its easy to be all paranoid. Your idea about the 'Ive been thinking of you' message is a good one. Thanks again.