Communication Frustration

[lsunshine]

Hey, is it just me or do you find it frustrating having difficulty communicating in your relationship while not wanting to go to a relationship counselor?

What do you guys do?

[Boisdevie]

What do you guys do?

End the relationship. Good communication is absolutely essential for a good relationship

[Kristina]

I don't do anything just keep suffering b/c I have kids with him

[menix83]

Does he just shut down when you want to talk?

[lsunshine]

No, we get into whatever we're arguing about. The frustration is that we seem to be getting into communication-related arguments all the time. Here's one from yesterday. He brought up an idea for us to try instead of what we have been doing, and I actually did think it was a good idea. My thought process went: it's a good idea so let's make sure we take everything into consideration so that it ends up really working well. I started questioning him, and he ended up feeling attacked and shut off. We talked through it in the end, but stuff like this is so frustrating when that's NOT how I want to be spending my time with him.

I'm thinking the next thing something like that comes up that I'll stop my initial response when he brings up an idea, and remind myself to immediately tell him I think it's a great idea. Then when I ask my questions (which I think are important to understanding the full picture) hopefully he'll feel like I'm on his side.

So there's one example. I'm curious to see what other people are doing to work on their communication.

Kristina, I hope you find a solution to bring you more happiness! We're here if you want to ask any questions!

[TheCafeTerrace]

Have you tried MDMA?

[Boisdevie]

I don't do anything just keep suffering b/c I have kids with him

There is a thing called divorce. So stop talking shit. If you don't like the situation get out. Plenty of people do.

[inked_ann]

If it's beating the crap out of you let go. You can be happier without it. Just try.