How would feel about your boyfriend watching porn?

[michaelandme]

If you were in a serious, committed relationship, that is also sexually gratifying for both parties, how would you feel if you found out your boyfriend watches porn? A bunch of my female friends and I had this discussion over the weekend and it was quite interesting how the overwhelming majority felt it was a form of cheating and that it made them feel like their husband/boyfriend found something lacking in them. So how do you feel about it?

[Negan]

From a guy perspective, i can honestly tell you that it's not a form of cheating. Don't stress about it unless it becomes a problem (IE, refusing to have sex with you).

Me and my friends often joke about "Sex is great until you discover masturbation, and realize it's pretty much the same thing, only cheaper and available at any time".

[basilandthyme]

I'm a woman. To me, it depends on how much porn the partner is watching and whether or not it's impacting the relationship.

If my partner watches it once every now and then, I wouldn't care. However, if he's using it daily and as a consequence has no interest in sex with me, then it would be a problem.

I don't see it as cheating and it would not make me feel insecure about myself.

[surfhb]

The female forum i know but i really dont give a fuuckk. This has been covered a million times here

No it's not cheating and not an issue unless it takes over some part of the relationship.

My personal opinion, but I would never consider dating a girl who was somehow put off by porn or the fact I watch it on my iPhone from Time to time.....me and my fiancé watch them often

[kageri]

I watch porn myself. Every now and then I suggest we watch porn together to get aroused for sex. We usually then end up half feeling bad half laughing at how much longer the people doing the porn last than we do. So long as porn is not being used in place of sex with the other person I see no problem with it.

[Gal-Nxt-Door]

Porn isnt cheating!! I have been in a committed relationship for 2 years. In my case it was the other way around..It was he who 'caught' me watchin it!! After the initial embarrasment subsided, we had a long chat about it..and I think its something every gal must share with her partner cuz lets face it- Everbody watches it!! .

[Maple1714]

I am female, I have watched porn. Sometimes its just fun to watch it. It's not cheating....good lord. I have a friend who is so weird about sex and she got pissed at her BF for watching porn right after they had their first child and she couldn't have sex for a few weeks. I think she is crazy...let a man watch some pron sheesh. As long as it's not something your BF does everyday/night then who cares?

[elysha]

If i'm going to be totally honest then i would have to say i agree with your girls, if i found out my boyfriend was watching porn behind my back i wouldn't be impressed i would too feel like i'm not good enough for him and that he has to turn to people who feel the need to flaunt their body to the whole nation instead of wanting to see someone who will only be with him, i would seriously hate it, but luckily i know that wouldn't happen as i think he knows i would kill him

[bluesummer]

I am a woman, I know my husband watches porn on occasion and I don't give a sh*t.

It's a non-issue to me because I know he's attracted to me and there's no issues with our sex life. If we weren't having sex and he was watching porn, I'd be pissed. I'm just not that insecure, and I'm also realistic....men are turned on visually. I'm not always around so if he needs it he's going to get it where he can. End of. Ladies need to stop the drah-ma over this issue really, it's ragingly indicative of a sense of low self esteem.

[pisces25]

I don't see why a guy would need it if he is satisfied in the relationship. Even if he is turned on visually why not just be single so you can bang as many chicks as you fancy. Just my opinion I know it's not a popular one but I have been with a porn-addicted guy and it's not pretty.

[pisces25]

cuz lets face it- Everbody watches it!! .

No they don't.

[smackie9]

If you were in a serious, committed relationship, that is also sexually gratifying for both parties, how would you feel if you found out your boyfriend watches porn? A bunch of my female friends and I had this discussion over the weekend and it was quite interesting how the overwhelming majority felt it was a form of cheating and that it made them feel like their husband/boyfriend found something lacking in them. So how do you feel about it?

You feel it's a form of cheating because you are trying to understand it using your female brain, you have no clue really so I will explain it to you. Male brains work very differently. Guys are stimulated on a visual level and females think with their damn emotions...which always complicates the most of simplest things. Guys not only look at porn but they check out women, boobs, ass, pretty face, even on a subconscious level 24 7. You are dimwits to think that restricting your man from porn will stop them from looking and thinking about sex with other women. Guys like variety, they like their masturbation time to fantasize, and it changes up their sex life because it's something different. Those girls in the porn, they don't compare you to them, there is no emotional attachment, they watch it for the action (the act of sex) in the porn to heighten their experience. This is the deal to men, sex is not love, they are two different things. So once you finally understand the male brain you will realize that it's not replacing you. How about this...why not watch porn with your man once in awhile to spice things up in the bedroom.

BTW porn is watched by women too.

[Maple1714]

Not everyone watches porn...I wish I had time to sit in a quiet room alone and watch some porn hahaa. When I was 18 and in my first relationship, I found porn mags under my BF's bed. I got all upset and insecure and questioned why he needed to look at that stuff when he had a virgin GF 3 years younger than him wanting sex 5 times a day? Hahahaha But, sometimes its just fun to fantasize and that is all. Porn isn't realistic...it's a fantasy.

[smackie9]

Not everyone watches porn...I wish I had time to sit in a quiet room alone and watch some porn hahaa. When I was 18 and in my first relationship, I found porn mags under my BF's bed. I got all upset and insecure and questioned why he needed to look at that stuff when he had a virgin GF 3 years younger than him wanting sex 5 times a day? Hahahaha But, sometimes its just fun to fantasize and that is all. Porn isn't realistic...it's a fantasy.

LOL I got my first PlayGirl when I was 16.

[elysha]

not everyone watches porn, i certainly don't, and my boyfriend certainly doesn't, it's not because we are boring or anything like that, it's just the fact that were happy with eachother, we don't feel the need to watch other people get down to business when we have eachother, honestly? we both find it weird when someone watches porn in a relationship, but people are different, i don't judge people for it, and yes i did wonder if my boyfriend was infact covering up being gay at first, i mean it's not many males you find that don't like porn now is it? haha, but after two and a half years i can assure you he's not gay