giving a girl an ultmatum?

[jerrysays]

it's either me or him. I want a relationship with you. So I need to know, are you choosing him or I?


Pushy? Needy?


or

is it showing her that you want to be with her and it comes off as a good thing?

[fearoflove]

It is not pushy at all. If she takes you seriously, she would want to be in a relationship with you too. If she just want to "play" you, she would construe it as pushy or use that as an excuse to lead you on.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

It comes of as weak and needy. Start seeing other girls and only see this girl for sex, until she decides she wants a relationship, or until you find another girl.

Your other alternative is to tell her not to contact you anymore unless she wants a relationship.

Either way, you should not mention the other guy at all.

[HeartIsAching]

it's either me or him. I want a relationship with you. So I need to know, are you choosing him or I?


Pushy? Needy?


or

is it showing her that you want to be with her and it comes off as a good thing?

It's not pushy or needy, but be prepared for the possibility it may backfire.

[Fruitsss]

why dont u choose to leave her. if someone wants u they cant be confuse between no one

[haxan]

It's fine, but like HIA is saying, be committed and prepared to follow through.