Hi there.. Out of nowhere the idea to maybe ask for advice on my relationship problem to someone online popped into my head, so here I am. To explain the whole background could take a long time but sometimes the more information you have the better equipped you are to help me..
The problem is this.. I am madly in love with a beautiful girl. We have been together for over 2 years. This is my longest relationship by far (and I'm 38) I've always walked away in the past when there were problems. Im handsome so I dont have problems finding new girlfriends. Anyway, we seem to fight constantly. We both really love each other and say we want to spend the rest of our lives together but both can be really sensitive insecure, prone to jealousy, sometimes I think shes telling me lies. We argue and go days without seeing each other. We're both quite damaged by our past, she has her own issues and I feel that sometimes its only me who's trying to fix things. I feel that I'm the only one who is really making an effort. There are so many times when I think 'she could have done this, or she could have done that - why didn't she - she's so selfish. she never thinks of me' etc etc' I feel hurt at her lack of care or thoughtfulness and get resentful towards her and start rowing with her. When all I want is some consideration. To see that she's trying as hard as I am. What do you guys think? Is this a common problem?