confused need advice

[kristy]

Well there is this guy we went to high school together, two years ago we hung out and messed around no sex though just touching. we lost contact and two years later he adds me on facebook! I give him my number we text and talked on the phone for hours we also had phone sex twice. He said he likes me a lot and he has for quite sometime the feeling is mutual between us. Now he isn't your average guy he is very sweet down to earth he can be shy at times. but there's a problem, over those two years e had a kid and the girl it was with well there off and on and right now there off but the thing is should I continue to talk to him with the risk of getting hurt? should i stop talking to him? I kinda would hope to be with him in the near future though /: I need advice!!

[Guybrush]

You are not giving us too much to work on here, but some thoughts to consider:

He is on and off with the mother of his child. Does the way he deals with his family (he may not use that term, but although on-and-off, he is actually a parent) tell you anything about his character that might be relevant when considering him as a partner?

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to seem overly concervative and judgemental. But can you elaborate on what you would seek from a relationship with this guy? What do you know about him?

[kristy]

You are not giving us too much to work on here, but some thoughts to consider:

He is on and off with the mother of his child. Does the way he deals with his family (he may not use that term, but although on-and-off, he is actually a parent) tell you anything about his character that might be relevant when considering him as a partner?

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to seem overly concervative and judgemental. But can you elaborate on what you would seek from a relationship with this guy? What do you know about him?

Well He is 18 and I'm 17 he lady is also 17 the baby was just born in june. they haven't been together for a week and a half now there is a 50% chance they will get back together and a 50% chance they wont but he say they talk and there okay just don't wanna be together. I do realize the mother of his child will always be around because she has full right over the baby and he wants he kid in his life and i respect that. I want a real relationship him i'm okay with her around, though just as long as nothing get intimate or anything passed a simple hug

[basilandthyme]

Given the continual on/off thing, I think the chances of him going back to her are far greater than 50%. Don't even bother with him till they've been broken up for more than a year.

[kristy]

Thank your for your advice. It's appreciated.

[Guybrush]

Given the continual on/off thing, I think the chances of him going back to her are far greater than 50%. Don't even bother with him till they've been broken up for more than a year.

I agree. In fact, don't even bother with him. Period.