Totally in love with BF, but he doesn't satisfy me sexually

[searock]

OP posted once and hasn't been back. No sense in replying.

Not for the purposes of giving advice to the OP, maybe... but sometimes it's nice to just discuss something for the sake of it. JMO

[phantom694u]

sex is a really important part of a serious relationship. why isn't he going down on you? men who love their women crave the taste down there. This can be a problem in the long run. You are getting resentful if you want him to have a taste of his own medicine. dont get resentful. demand satisfaction. if he still refuses, then there is a deeper problem.

[Little delights]

Breakup because he sucks at sex? Everyone here has some AMAZING advice......... On a less sarcastic note, ever heard of communication? Take charge and tell him that you want foreplay. Your relationship is a two way street, so act up to it and be the bigger person. If you lack communication about sex, then you lack one of the fundamental aspects of a relationship.

[Wakeup]

@ Little delights: Did you read the opening post, hun?

I think she has communicated with him but he's still a lazy turd in the sack. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.

I brought this up to him a week or two ago and we discussed it in detail. He explained to me that foreplay wasn't really his "thing," but if it meant that much to me, he would make an effort to include me more. He fingered me briefly that one night, and that was it... and since that one time, things have gone back to the exact same thing they always were.

[kskts6115]

I agree with everyone here. If he really cared he'd make it a priority. Any decent guy wants you to have a good time too and I'm afraid that this is a deal breaker. Can you live the rest of your life feeling unsatisfied like that? I'd give it another try and make him understand this is something you need if he's not willing to change then you should reconsider being with this person. Not making that simple effort shows that there will be other things that come up that he won't make effort in either.

[angel31]

I have to agree that if he is a super guy outside the bedroom, he isn't going to be so shitty inside the bedroom so something just doesn't seem right. Unless he's gay. That, honestly was my first thought. What guy JERKS his hand away when being led to a girls vagina? Come ON...guys WANT to have their hands on your vag...why would they JERK it away? Just doesn't make sense to me, .... To be great everywhere else but suck in the bedroom...what other explanation is there? I'm shocked I'm the first person to say it!

[michelle23]

He probably doesn't realize that most women NEED foreplay in order to orgasm and a lot of women cannot orgasm during sex. I think you really need to explain this to him. I asked a bunch of lads once "how do you know for sure if a girl has orgasmed" and the responses I got were absolutely hilarious. One lad said "if there's a wet patch on the bed", another said "if she moans". Most men actually need to be thought what to do and they don't know what a real orgasm looks like until they see one and then there like "oh my god, porn tells a lie" lol idots!

However, I think it is selfish if he lies back and lets you go down on him and never does the same for you. You should ask him why he doesnt want to and if he has some sort of oral phobia (as some men do) dump him

[michelle23]

8 or 9 months in and sex is still a problem though. That is bad. I had my man thought within 2months. We were both inexperienced but great together in bed

[michelle23]

He probably doesn't realize that most women NEED foreplay in order to orgasm and a lot of women cannot orgasm during sex. I think you really need to explain this to him. I asked a bunch of lads once "how do you know for sure if a girl has orgasmed" and the responses I got were absolutely hilarious. One lad said "if there's a wet patch on the bed", another said "if she moans". Most men actually need to be thought what to do and they don't know what a real orgasm looks like until they see one and then there like "oh my god, porn tells a lie" lol idots!

However, I think it is selfish if he lies back and lets you go down on him and never does the same for you. You should ask him why he doesnt want to and if he has some sort of oral phobia (as some men do) dump him