Is he interested?

[Angel29]

I joined a social activities group and have met a guy there. I am 29, he is also 29, he has been single for 6 months and is going through a divorce. His wife has met with someone else. I know I should know the signs at my age but I am clueless.

This guy rarely smiles but when he introduced himself to me he was grinning. We went to a bar one night and he put his arm on the back of my chair and kept leaning in to me when I talked. When we have been playing sports or are out I have caught he looking at me a few times. The one time I was waiting for him to look and he did so I smiled at him and he smiled back (he rarely smiles).

One time I told one of the group members I had to go to my car to get something and I will meet them all at the pub. When I got to the pub the guy I like said no-one knew where I had gone as the message didn't get passed on. He kept saying he was worried about me but he or no-one else had my number to call me (one person had my number but forgot he had it). He said that I should have asked him to come my car so I wouldn't be walking on my own in the dark. He will say my name a lot in conversation when talking to me. Is he interested or just being friendly? I fancy him a lot but don't want to be forceful as he hasn't been single long.

[smackie9]

Ya I guess he does. Keep your distance a bit until his divorce is finished. People are usually not quite ready for a relationship so soon after a marriage has ended because they are still emotionally tied to their ex. He is going through an adjustment period, and might be clinging onto you because he doesn't want to be alone or he is just looking for something casual and wants to play the field. You don't want to be a rebound either. So you are right you shouldn't be forceful, but you shouldn't let him be forceful either.