Hello all,
Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. I'm 32 and up until a year ago considered the head on my shoulders to be intelligent, sensible most of the time and full of common sense. I now find myself not so sure and wandering lost. My fiance and I of three years broke up officially around 15 months ago but I allowed him (and my stupid self) to play the back and forth game for the following year resulting in nothing but extended heart ache and pain. I ended things finally a few months back. I realised that he was never interested in rescuing the relationship, just lonely and confused like me and we needed to get off the merry-go-round. I haven't seen him or had contact with him for nearly 5 months now. I found out at Christmas that he is now dating a friend of mine and they are in a relationship. We live in a very small town and whilst it was a crushing blow to my heart to discover that he is now with another woman and so over me I am also suffering the humiliation and shock that this woman was my friend and close to our circle of mutual friends. I have coped the last five months without contact when I didn't dare to imagine I could and that, I am proud of, but I know deep in my heart that I am still in love with him. It is preventing me from moving on with my life and being happy. My wasted heart still believes he is the one and as we all know there is no greater tragedy in matters of the heart to love somebody and not have it returned. I'm struggling and feel so lost. I have made myself go out on a few dates but my heart wasn't in them before I even left my house, just a sad going through the motions type of thing. All I can think about is him, I feel pathetically consumed by him in every waking aspect of my life and plagued my faceless dreams of him at night. I have no interest in anybody else at all and I feel so damn lonely even in a crowd. I feel ridiculous. I know I should be moving on and starting a new life but I am just stuck, plain stuck. I feel like my feet are planted in the ground and my mind's on repeat play. All of my family and friends are now bored and fed up with me and this situation. Nobody wants to listen to me anymore as they all think this has gone on too long and I should have let him go by now, especially since it has become public knowledge that he has moved on with my now lost friend too. That makes me feel even more sad and alone as I don't know how to fix this and find myself again. I have the want and desire to move on in my head but my heart just won't give it up. It seems that what the heart wants the head cannot stop.
Anyway, apologies for the long post. Any help or advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.