Ok here it is...... (clearing throat, lol) been having a great relationship with an older man in his 50's who happens to be married. WAIT now.. before you start giving me the ole cliche. His wife has been severely disabled with multiple sclorosis (sorry for spelling unsure) for about 20 years and is no longer in the home and resides in a rehab facility. She may never come home due to her constant nursing care that is needed. Their relationship has become caregiver and patient. No sex or conversation barely because of her cognitive and degenerative issues. He goes to see her everyday and still treats her very kind as a spouse should. So she has no idea of what is going on. We have been seeing each other for almost 4 mos.. Believe it or not he is a wonderful generous, kind loving man whom I share everything with. We have expressed our feelings for each other and I see him everyday nites and weekends. However at some point I know I will want more. He says that he has thought about filing for a divorce but he pays takes financial care of her because she has small income and poor medical benefits and leaving her could be a disaster. He is looking into some type of medical for her under the Obama Plan. I feel really sorry for her but my life with him has been so great and fulfilling and I am good to him as well. His kids are grown and out of the house but at some point people will find out about our relationship because we are often out in public doing things such as concerts, dinner and soon out of town traveling for business. He is a very prominent manager at his job and they help and support him a lot with his sick wife. It would not be a good thing if they new either as well as his family and children. We both come from very traditional families where marriage is held in high esteem and it's vows. Regardless of sickness or health. Not asking for your opinion on what I am doing but simply if you were in "my shoes" (And it's not impossible) what would you do?