i dont know what to do, please help

[kiqki64]

Hello, I need advice on a situation I have been in for many years now.

I met a really close person about over 3 years ago (I was 13) and I fell in love with the guy. I was so scared that my mother might find out so in order to hide what I felt for the guy I hooked up with 2 otherguys for the past years, just a few months ago I finally let go of my fear and am now alone. I did that because I didn't know how to hide my feelings as well as I do now.
The reason why I had to hide this is because he is 12 years older than me, and to not cause a fight I've been hiding this.
He actually knows I love him and is willing to give it a try when I'm in legal age (about a year from now) whicn the time can be used to get to know each other better.
What should I do? Shoukd I take the chance on this and how?

My mum is really against this sort of thing so its quite difficult for me... I really need advice.

[michelle23]

you are only 16 right? and hes like 28? I think you should forget him. At your age you still don't know what you want. I know teenagers don't like to hear that but believe me when your like 21 you will understand why people say that.

He is way ahead of you emotionally, intellectually, sexually. completely different maturity levels. Hes at an age where hes ready to settle down while you wont be for another 5 or ten years.

It would be different if you were 30 and he was 40-id say age is just a number but you are going to change a lot over the next 4 or 5 years as you grow and learn about yourself and what you want and you could end up getting hurt badly or a very serious relationship right now with an older man could hinder your development.

I think you should cut all contact with this man and focus on school, family, friends, hobbies etc.. You have the rest of your life to fall in love and to settle down. It is not a good idea right now.

[michelle23]

If you are not going to take my advice and want to go for it- I strongly recommend you go on birth control like the pill and also use condoms. The worst thing that could possibly happen is you getting pregnant with this older man.

[coconutz]

After a year from now you still underage!!!!!!!!!

18 and older is legal!

And especially as a woman its stupid of you to even think about hiding relationship

with guys especially a pedophile!
Cause that is like party for them to have you rebel against your parents and

hide stuff so they can do with you what they want cause you will not be able to tell
your parents which are your protection at that age.

So stop hiding stuff. its will work against you.
No one can love you more then your parents.
Rather you agree with them or not.

There is a lot that you dont see or understand at that age.
So you have to tell your parents so they can see and let you know what you dont see.

Beside guys that gos for little girls (13 you was) never have good intentions.
And there is something really wrong with them.
Often its just to have sex with you.

[Wakeup]

If you're having sex then you'd best check out the legal age of consent in your jurisdiction because if you are not of legal age of consent then if your mother finds out, she could have him charged with Statutory Rape.

You're not old enough to make these important decisions for yourself and the man that is grooming you at the moment is quite unethical to aid and abet with you in this. This goes to his character in general... Red Flag.

I don't think very many parenst (including yourself once you have children) would want their CHILD involved with a man when you are a minor so don't be hating on mom who is wiser and is looking out for your best interests.. unlike this man.