Is it wrong to be attracted to a girl who is a lot younger?

[lamobatsman]

Nope. Age is but a number in a case like that.

i meant 18 year olds are still quite immature for a 24 year old no? thats what i found out with this girl i guess

[Love'sReject]

Yeah, but is she HOT?

[Rowen]

i meant 18 year olds are still quite immature for a 24 year old no? thats what i found out with this girl i guess

It depends on the person. Age does not necessarily always measure maturity levels. In a case like yours, I'd give it a try because your maturity levels are most likely close.
In a case like the OP? We would see him on Date Line's "To Catch a Predator."

[lamobatsman]

yh she was very hot

[surfhb2]

It bothers me that a parent would allow any 14 year old to go out on a date. Way too young for that shit Jesus! LOL

[Rowen]

It bothers me that a parent would allow any 14 year old to go out on a date. Way too young for that shit Jesus! LOL

Well, I wouldn't suggest you take a walk through my school district's middle school... Let's just say that at 13-14, there were *quite* a lot of things my classmates were doing that was worse than going on a date.

[toknow]

I think people need to be less paranoid about this. 14 in the middle ages was when people got married and is usually when a girl becomes a woman. If nature says she is a woman, who are you to say she is a child. I don't condone sexual relations or marrying at that age, or even a relationship, but I believe adopting a specific belief just because society dictates it is cowardly.

And if you think teenagers are angels you are extremely gullible, with the internet there are 14 year olds today that know about sex more than you do, and hearing them speak would make you blush. I've been 14 and the things my friends were doing at that age would put a porno producer to shame.

[michelle23]

I think it really depends who they are friends with and how easily influenced they are. I think they are uneducated about sex at such a young age and people who lose their v young are normally more promiscuous when they are older. The emotional aspect of sex is lost and many end up in dysfunctional relationships or as single parents and they find it difficult to settle down properly with a loving partner. I know an 18 year old who has two kids and another on the way. Think of all the opportunities she has been robbed of because she was too young to even think seriously about contraception. The girl doesnt even have time to brush her hair, she looks a wreck and she is struggling emotionally and mentally. Too much too young is bad. She will now settle for any man wholl have her and let him treat her bad coz shell think noone else wants her. What kind of life is that?

[bearz]

Well, I wouldn't suggest you take a walk through my school district's middle school... Let's just say that at 13-14, there were *quite* a lot of things my classmates were doing that was worse than going on a date.

I used to have my office on a middle school campus, I know what you're talking about. Making out and having their hands down each other's pants was just the beginning.

[toknow]

Michelle, it all depends on the person. When I saw my friends doing it, that didn't make me want to do it, it did the opposite, it turned me to casual sex. And I wasn't too young to make that decision that it wasn't right for me and didn't follow their example.

[Rowen]

I used to have my office on a middle school campus, I know what you're talking about. Making out and having their hands down each other's pants was just the beginning.

Exactly. And as I can imagine, it's gotten worse still with the years since I've gone through it.

[Zulnex]

It bothers me that a parent would allow any 14 year old to go out on a date. Way too young for that shit Jesus! LOL

I agree as well. Way too young and it's also illegal.

[surfhb2]

Well, I wouldn't suggest you take a walk through my school district's middle school... Let's just say that at 13-14, there were *quite* a lot of things my classmates were doing that was worse than going on a date.

Yeah......I know i was 14 once too

[searock]

I agree with Michelle - pretty much all the girls who hung out with older dudes when we were 14-15 are now single mothers with no higher education.

At 14 you don't have the emotional or general maturity to engage in a sexual relationship with someone a lot older than you. At that age, there should be no more than an year's difference between the partners' age.

[dickriculous]

Hello guys,

I'm new to the forum. I came here because I have relationship issues. My problem is that I am always attracted to girl who are much younger than me. I am 18 year old. My last girlfriend was 15 year old, and her parents were extremely suspicious of me and were apparently "relieved" when we broke up... All this because of my age.

Now I am attracted to a girl who is actually 14 year old. I know this sounds shocking, but I genuinely like her. Well, I don't know her that well, I've only talked to her a few times (she is the sister of one of my girl friends), and it makes me wanna get to know her better.

But I fear what other people will think... I'm honestly scared that some people will call me pedo or that I will get into trouble somehow. So I need help. Is there something wrong with me? And if yes, how do I get help?

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to anybody or anything. We used to say it was wrong for people to be attracted to members of the same sex until we realized how primitive that is due to the fact that you can't really control who you find attractive, the heart/hormones desire what they desire. Mere attraction is nothing.

That said...

Taking action on these desires is a different story, depending on the situation. And this situation is, to say the least, an unfavorable one. People will likely call you a pedo. They will be wrong (pedophilia = sexual attraction to prepubescents), but that won't stop them from talking. And if word of you being a pedo gets out you will attract the wrong sort of attention - and I'm not just talking about her parents. What about law enforcement? Future employers? Any of that matter to you? Registered sex offenders can't make it in society and if they go to jail for it they're the first to be killed by the other inmates.

**** what's right and what's wrong, **** whether or not she's "mature enough based on the logic I'm fishing for by creating this thread to reinforce this notion that it's ok to hook up with her" (admit it, that was the point of you creating this thread). None of that means anything compared to the fact that this could literally ruin your life if you take it too far.

I mean, goddamn son. I love pussy too but I'm not gonna throw everything away for it. Even when I was 18 I was only willing to sacrifice so much for a piece of ass. All of my dignity? Maybe. A finger or two? Sure, no big deal. But my freedom in society and functionality as a member within that society? My ability to ever get a decent job again? That's too much brah.