A lot of my friends are getting married these days. I am 27 and my boyfriend is 26...none of his friends are married or getting married any time in the near future. I'm not trying to sound pretentious in this post because it's mainly about me wanting my bf to accompany me and him wearing decent clothes...I've been biting my tongue this week about this and I need to vent!
I brought him to two of my friends weddings last year...the problem with weddings, I feel, is that I'd rather go with him than to go alone but I don't want to skip out on a good friend's wedding just because he won't accompany me. I do realize that I am selfish in this situation...it's not really all that fair to him...he doesn't want to go and he won't know anyone there. I won't even know most people there anyway, plus he has met everyone already. I convinced him to come with me in the end, but he's making things really hard...such as waiting last minute to find something to wear. He made things really difficult the last time too, but that's another story...
The wedding in question is this coming Saturday and let me add, he has plans to go out with his friends on Friday night...Saturday morning won't be pretty! I asked him TWICE last night what he was planning on wearing and he said that he would think about it later. Knowing him, it'll be Saturday and he still won't have anything to wear. Another problem is that he doesn't have one nice suit... I don't care that he doesn't have one but he could at least allow me to help him, no? The previous two weddings we went to were in August and September, it was still warm out so he wore black pants and the same shirt to both...which he INSISTED on NOT tucking into his pants. I feel like this looks so ridiculous and juvenile...fine if you take it out by the end of the night, but for the actual ceremony? it just looks so slobby. Plus, I don't like that he wants to wear the same old purple shirt he wore at the last two weddings...he has other button ups he can wear. I know that he's doing this because he could care less.
I'm just worried that I'm going to look like I picked up a bum off the street just to have a date to the wedding! lol He can't seem to understand all this. It's ONE saturday night. I didn't pick the night, I'm not even that excited about the wedding (I personally hate weddings!), but I'm happy for my friend and I want to celebrate it with her and be supportive regardless. I know this is not his friend, but it's a free meal and an open bar...what does he have to complain about?! I asked my sister's bf and my mom's bf (they're all about the same size) if they have a suit that my bf can borrow on saturday. I did this behind his back, because honestly I think it's going to piss him off if I keep bringing it up. I want to have every possible solution to my problem before bringing it up to him again.
What to do?? :S I feel like I would do something like this for him if he needed me to be with him. Is this normal "guy behaviour"? Should there be some sort of compromise about this type of situation in relationships? It's not like he's buying the gift or paid for the meal. I know he doesn't want to go but he could at least put in a little effort, no? He is a very sociable guy and can talk to anybody, so I don't see it as being a social anxiety issue.