HI all just a quick update, after spending a lot of time together last week which was the wrong thing to do I know but it happened, she then told me via text last Thursday that she was looking for a holiday for her/her boyfriend and her sister and partner for September. The boyfriend is off to sea this week as he is in the navy for 8 weeks now, but as of Thursday I decided enough is enough and needed some time alone so haven't had any contact at all, he will have gone back now as he was home for the bank holiday weekend, it's tough but a step in the right direction I think.