I broke up with my ex 4 weeks ago and now I've found out one of my best mates got drunk and slept with her. I knew she was really into him the whole time we were dating, too! We were good mates, but I'm going to find it hard to forgive him.
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17-04-13, 09:59 AM #1
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Friend slept with my ex girlfriend. Do I forgive him?
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17-04-13, 10:08 AM #2
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Were you together when he slept with her?
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17-04-13, 10:12 AM #3
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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching
No. Had been broke up for about two weeks. I knew she really liked him, but he promised he wouldn't do anything, but then go drunk and slept with her.
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17-04-13, 10:13 AM #4
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I'm surprised you stayed with her when you knew that the whole time you were with her she was into him? Pfft. Let him have her.
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17-04-13, 10:16 AM #5
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Well, you don't own her OP. What and who she does is none of your concern anymore.
Personally I've never cared who boinked a chick after we're no longer together.
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17-04-13, 10:19 AM #6
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So, you don't want her - and your mate can't have her either.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
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17-04-13, 10:19 AM #7
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I think it would be very hard for me to forgive him though.
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17-04-13, 10:21 AM #8
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How did you find out she boinked him?
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17-04-13, 10:26 AM #9
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Originally Posted by Wakeup
He told me
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17-04-13, 10:30 AM #10
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Well, what did you say when he told you? Did you tell him you thought he was out of line? Did he tell you because he is remorseful? Did he tell you to brag? Did he just make her a one nighter or are they wanting to continue on? Originally Posted by josh44
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17-04-13, 11:25 AM #11
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I always try to get my exes to check into a nunnery when we break up. Strangely enough, they never go for that idea.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
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17-04-13, 11:31 AM #12
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You shouldn't be friends with him anymore. Ex's are off limits.
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17-04-13, 12:56 PM #13
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I agree with Wakeup that the reason he told you is important. Was he boasting or sorry for what he did. Or perhaps does he have feelings for her?
If the two of them have feelings for each other, why would you stand in their way?Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
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17-04-13, 01:00 PM #14
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That is so not cool. Total violation of the bro code. Sorry that happened to you, OP!
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17-04-13, 01:24 PM #15
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She was fair game after the relationship ended. If his ex sleeps with the local football team it's none of his sodding business.
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