I have been in a relationship for almost two years and for 1 ½ years of it, I have been miserable. Initially we met about ten years ago when we were in college and were friendly. He was a little older and tried to date me but a mutual friend told me horrible things about him and I stayed away from him (I later found out that the mutual friend was not credible and lied). Fast forward years later, we reconnect on social media and start dating. I was seeing other people and was honest with him about it. He was sweet and made it no secret that he thought I was ‘the one’ for him. So he continued to pursue me. Eventually, we were exclusive. I relocated to be with him and that’s when everything changed. He was possessive, controlling, and manipulative. I lived with him and I discovered that he was video recording me and put spyware on my cell. I was communicating to an ex because I was so miserable. Recently, I moved out and we have been trying to work on the relationship but I cannot shake the things he’s done. I was wrong to communicate with an ex, but how can I forgive him? How do I know he won’t do it again? Please help!