LR's E-dating practice thread - NO FEEDBACK HERE

[Wakeup]

Wil you stfu and just talk to the girlS. Don't put all your ballzzz in one basket, Mmmm'kay.

[YoungCosmo]

*TWO figurative baskets. Look, I can't be trusted to talk to girls on dating sites on my own. I'm even more bafflingly incompetent on dating sites, where the stakes are higher and the margins for error, slimmer..

[YoungCosmo]

Well, I did it. It probably sucked and hence, not expecting a response...GRAND. The odds are already 1-10000000 to get a response to a first message. The odds are getting 2 deep are 1-30000000.

[Wakeup]

How about you change that attitude? You're sending out what you will get back. Change up your thoughts.

[YoungCosmo]

You mean I have to change that, too?

[Wakeup]

Well if you read The Secret (or any other book about positive thinking) you'd know that you DO indeed need to change your negative attitude, that expectation of failure that you wear around your neck like the Pope wears a crucifix.

[YoungCosmo]

Actually, I checked out what is perhaps the seminal book ever written on positive self-ta;l: "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. Dem has read it, I think HIA has it as well..So I am actually learning quite a lot from this book, and I'm only two chapters in!

P.S. the girl messaged me back. First time making it this far without PUA lines..

[Wakeup]

I've read it as well. Good stuff ~ learn to apply what you've read in your own life.

Way to go re; the response from da chickiepoo.

[YoungCosmo]

Yeah, I am actually literally writing notes as I make my way through it.

Now, with this girl she seems like the kind to want to wait more than 3 messages to ask out. I've currently got to 3 messages. I'm uncertain as to if this is a good time in the conversation to or not and I am not even sure if I should suggest phone number to call her someday this week or for a straightup meet. I asked two good questions but don't want to exhaust them or get friendzone'ed/wait too long or ask too soon...Whadda I do?!

I mean, it's down to this. If I don't succeed with her, I am definitely going to die alone and having had only 1 g/f.

[meloveulongtime]

Yeah, I am actually literally writing notes as I make my way through it.

Now, with this girl she seems like the kind to want to wait more than 3 messages to ask out. I've currently got to 3 messages. I'm uncertain as to if this is a good time in the conversation to or not and I am not even sure if I should suggest phone number to call her someday this week or for a straightup meet. I asked two good questions but don't want to exhaust them or get friendzone'ed/wait too long or ask too soon...Whadda I do?!

I mean, it's down to this. If I don't succeed with her, I am definitely going to die alone and having had only 1 g/f.

Woah YC, easy boy!

[YoungCosmo]

Now I'm a little worried: this is the furthest I've gone in a loooooong time. I am thinking of saying "Oh yeah, I'll definitely look up (this thing you recommended to me based on my question earlier about what something cool in this unique interest of yours would be)", acknowledge one other passage she wrote to me so it doesn't look like I ignored it and then say something like "I think we have a lot in common and you seem like a very pleasant person. Would you want to give me your number so I can call you sometime?"

GOOD? Bad? Needs improvement? What?

[Wakeup]

Just do it. It doesn't matter if she says "no" or "not yet" or "yes" you're not suppose to be so invested in outcomes at this point so stop that horse chit about being your last chance and dieing alone o.O

[YoungCosmo]

Done. I'm just wondering if my ideas were good and to generally repeat the kinda pace I tried to set..

[YoungCosmo]

I think it would help if I knew where I placed on a scale so I can try messaging girls who are commensurately attractive/unattractive..

[YoungCosmo]

She wants to Skype! This was a suggested alternative to phone calls. I thought it was reasonable. So should I ask for a meet one Skype in or end the conversation with a "Can I call you on Skype again soon?" and wait 1-2 times?