FEEDBACK thread: LR's dating practice

[IndiReloaded]

This is [a redo of] the thread where you can provide feedback, advice or coach LR in his responses and/or approach to any of his 'dates' in the other thread. Be nice.

I had to delete the other thread b/c of our reading comprehension-challenged subset of our forum.

[HeartIsAching]

We're in a crowded pub and have been waiting in line quite some for drinks. You're standing beside me and I smile at you and say "wow, it's crowded here tonight"

This one is easy. She's given you an opening by speaking to you first - that's an invitation to talk. If a girl does that, that means she might find you interesting and wants to find out.

I'll give you a hint: Say something back to her that's mildly flattering but relevant. This lets her know that you're also possibly interested.

[Love'sReject]

I don't know what a good idea of something to say would be: I don't want to get slapped and I don't really have confidence that I could pull off a physical compliment.

[HeartIsAching]

k... how 'bout "Really? I hadn't noticed anyone... else."

[HeartIsAching]

You WON'T get slapped if she's invited you to talk unless you say something stupid like "Wow, you've got a great rack."

Oh, and that's another thing. Don't talk to their tits. Look 'em in the eyes unless they invite you to look at their tits - and they will if they're interested. I'll tell you more about that later.

[Love'sReject]

:O WHAT?! They invite looks at their tits?!!! WTF?

Anyway, eye contact is easy for me. It's just what to say that is sooooo killer..

[HeartIsAching]

Yes, they do. Not usually verbally, but they will. They'll bend over to pick something up, or lean forward slightly to let the shirt drop away from the cleavage... sometimes they're a bit more blatant and will smile, take a deep breath and arch their back a bit. It's totally unconscious but it happens all the time. You might take some time doing as Rowen suggests and people-watch in a bar.

[HeartIsAching]

Oh, and that doesn't mean stare. It means take a quick glance and back to her face. She's letting you know that your attentions are not unwanted.

There are a lot of subtle-ish cues that are mostly unconscious that people do in the mating dance.

[Love'sReject]

My God. This is so complicated. Learning IT was comparatively easier...They should really teach this in college.

[pcmaster]

You should study real social dynamics than. You know RSDjulien and etc. guys from youtube.

[Love'sReject]

ANyway, I don't want to go too far off-topic. Still reading through the FFA thread...

[FlaCooln]

My God. This is so complicated. Learning IT was comparatively easier...They should really teach this in college.

They do....it's called alcohol 101.

[HeartIsAching]

Something like "I've got my ion you, baby!" or some line about her being a cute and smart molecule that I want to bond with, say, over coffee? I'm not great with science so I wonder if that even made any sense..

Not bad. Eliminate the "baby" though, it's a bit too familiar. Otherwise it's good - Clever, funny and mildly flattering.

[michelle23]

LR we will tesch uou body lsnguage, eye contact signals when you have a date. for now just focus on getting one and you wont be so overwhelmed. one thing at a time.

i wonder do some parents lock their kids in a dark room. it baffles me how people dont just learn these things naturally but your right about teaching kids about relationships in school . wed prob have a lot more happy couples if they did.

[HeartIsAching]

What's this "we" BS? You in charge now?