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[Desperado1988]

Why would a woman tell you shes selfish? If she knew you had strong feelings for her?

[JJhon]

You need to give more background...

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[basilandthyme]

She's either trying to warn him off....or warn him that she's a high maintenance girl.

Either way, it's a warning.

[FlaCooln]

Run dude...selfish/high maintenance girls are almost never happy with you. RUN man RUN.

[stan92964]

She obviously knows she should do better but she really doesn't want to. People who are selfish really believe thy will be happier being selfish ... if that wasn't true they wouldn't choose to be selfish. The real truth is people who give of themselves are always happier. She must be attractive or you wouldn't be tempted to be with her. Probably a bad idea.

[Desperado1988]

To give detail into this very rough situation. Please don't be brutal this is actually the truth as messed up as it may sound. And sorry for my bad grammer and spelling. Doing this by phone so please bare with me.

Well..I had this dream five years ago or six now I believe. I dream about this woman. She was weari ng a white wedding gown. I could never forget the face. Blonde hair, purple eye liner, lip stick and a mole top of her lip. So after that I didn't have any other dreams until last year. When I started to receive more of them. This time dreams of her on facebook pictures and stuff and even saw her name. Months ago my best friend Stevie asked me if I wanted to move in with him and his cuz. His cuz being in the navy and stationed in San Diego Cail. He wanted me to move in with him, his cousin Later on found out that his cousinwas bringing down his grlfriend who is from Cailforna.

She was suppose to move in with us. So. when they got here. And I got over there. There she was. Blonde hair, purple eye liner, purple lipstick, the mole on top of her lip. Even was dressed in purple. Werid right? So as the weeks went on. I kinda had a strange gut feeling like da sa vu she seemed like my type. And I knew it was her the face in the dream. So she was interested in me. I could tell she was flirting hard. My best friend soon dropped out and wanted to stay here.

As the weeks went by. I found out he was also seeing a married woman. That he met in Cail. At s sex club or something. Same place he met her.
So those two where fighting becasue he wasnt loyal to her and such and such. So they went to a party and so as vengful as she is. She slept with another guy to hurt him. Becasue he was flirting with another girl. So me and her texted each other I wanted to be there for her.

I believe she can change but its just when she was young her mom was well....she got around..a lot from she told me. So when I told her my feelings toward her she said "lets take it disney style slow" Which I guess she wants a happy ending. And kept saying lets be like zach and miri(From the movie zach and mirir make a porno) So you see...he kicked her out becasue she was slapping him and not angry. So she got a guy who i guess she met at a party who or something to come pick her up. I stayed up all night chatting with her. Just trying to be a decent guy you know?

So when he kicked her out. And and she found the guy she was staying with was a meth head. I payed him 20$ to go pick her up. So bascally moving forward..
So we're in Orlando. Just the three of us. I might of let her on. Becasue before we left I kinda acted like a horn dog. We got there he toke a nap. And me and her got a little drunk. One thing led to another. And I stopped it before it started. i had this woman and I liked her a lot But i wanted to be different. And show her i liked her more then just sexual you know? So I carried of to the bed. Cover over her told her my feelings and left the room while he ws sleeping and she begin to sleep. I knew she knew what was going on. Becasue when I told her my feelings she smiled and afterwards I got back she hugged me. So of course they fought more becasue he wouldn't stop texting the married chick from Cail. Who is from Orlando. So I was there for her hugged her when she was crying gave her issue to clear up her tears. Hell, even cleared the tears myself for her. I had the leave the room so they could have there "Fun time" okay so you know I'm hurting. Badly. So I left them down there. Her down there. I couldnt take the pain, him bossing me around. Becasue if i would of stayed down there. Trouble of been in with him.

The reason the slept with him is becasue if he didn't get it from her he would get it from that married woman thus hurting her becasue shes attached.
When I told her I paid him 20$ to go pick her up becasue I was warried she posted a picture on her FB. Of like a shinie knight armor to the rescuse.
I'm sorry let me get to the help. I know shes young 23. And she has a lot of growing up to do. And her saying Disney ending like a happy ending kinda makes me think. Along with her saying "Lets soak our wild oats spread out our love" After i told her makes me wonder.

I am a Baptist Christian I do believe everyone should have a chance to change. and I do believe god wanted me in her life for a reason.

Before I left I asked her "wasn't that a nice Disney moment when I turned you down when you where drunk?" She smiled like a the kind of face you can tell that's what she really wants. But I believe shes just too young and needs to learn what life is about. Again sorry for the bad spelling and grammer done this by phone.

[smackie9]

What is she actually means is that she isn't interested in dating you. She is just softening the blow by saying she is bad for you....kind of a made up excuse because girls don't like being put on the spot like that. It's a blow off bro.

[romany]

She obviously knows she should do better but she really doesn't want to. People who are selfish really believe thy will be happier being selfish ... if that wasn't true they wouldn't choose to be selfish. The real truth is people who give of themselves are always happier. She must be attractive or you wouldn't be tempted to be with her. Probably a bad idea.

I am a supporter of this talk

[Desperado1988]

Long story short. I had a premonition dream about her.(Yes I know crazy but do your research it happens) And I know it was her. Because of the face. And the mole top lip. And other things. It was a dream about the wedding. I had this ream five years ago now. And I met her couple months ago. Ever had a gut feeling? I knew it was her from my dream.

She likes me, she told me so. Among some other signs she doe's. It just seems she wanted to wait because she said "Let's take it Disney style slow" which I means she wants a happy ending like on the Disney channel shows(Yep...crazy...) she's a bit wild right now. I told her I had strong feelings she just said lets soak our wild oats. Spread out our love. Me, I'm a Christian Baptist. I wasn't born to spread around like that. And I believe I had this dream for a reason. I believe everyone can change given the right chance and time.