I asked her to the beach but she suggested lunch instead?

[crudemood]

We have went out before several times. Twice alone and twice as a group. I could really tell she was into me until we went clubbing one time and I got a little bit too drunk She wasn't very happy with that.

After the club incident It took asking her out again several times until she agreed to go out with me again. We planned going to the beach 2 weeks ago.

So I contacted her today about it. At first she asked who was going. I said I would bring my grandma along as a joke. Then said if she was scared I would really bring my grandma alone. I eventually told her it was just us.

She said "I think I'd be more comfortable if we just went to lunch or something?"

My guess is shes giving me another shot and is unsure of me because of what I did in the club that one time.

What do you think this means?

[Ann S]

I think it means you have to earn back her respect. YOU DRANK too much and she didn't like it! I'd take note of that and apologize and don't let it happen again. And your flippant answer about your grandmother joining you at the beach was just too smart ass for someone you are trying to court who already has an issue with you. You should have been sensitive enough to pick up on that. Ann

[Am I crazy?]

No doubt you made an ass of yourself by getting too drunk. That may or may not be here issue and you may be thinking too deep on this one. It may just be that after only a few dates with you she may not be ready to strut around in front of you half naked. If she feels the slightest bit uneasy around you can you imagine how that could be magnified with her body on full display to you? heck, maybe she has a few winter pounds and a tan to work on before showing off the goods to you. Its either that or she just does not know if she likes your drinking and thats why she suggested lunch rather than sitting on a beach alone, half naked, with a guy who may bring along a cooler of beer, who has a history of acting like an ass when drunk. Pick one

[Am I crazy?]

oops, sorry. I did not realize you are talking about a gay relationship. My thoughs and opinions may not work with the gay stuff. I got no experience with that.

[crudemood]

Hey thanks guys. Am I Crazy, yes it is between two girls but I think you're both pretty much right. I need to start trusting my intuition with girls. I should know what a girl is thinking because afterall I'm

[lalalita]

Is the beach far away for you guys? (A bit of a drive? You would make a day of it?) Lunch is more local, and thus, more noncommittal.

I was asked to the beach by a man I was interested in, but because we had not hung out alone outside of work, I suggested something more local so if things went south it would be easier to escape.

[crudemood]

Its about a half an hour drive. We would probably go in one car together so she wouldn't really have an escape like you said.

I talked to her yesterday about lunch today and she almost backed out, I was so incredibly frustrated I wanted to pull my hair out but I played it cool and eventually she agreed to come out with me. I have a feeling this girl is playing hard to get.

[vashti]

I have a feeling she isn't comfortable committing to spending so many hours with you.

[crudemood]

I have a feeling she isn't comfortable committing to spending so many hours with you.

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I don't blame her. I have to regain her trust and respect again.