Hey I understand your anguish a bit. This circumstance is stemming from cultural objectivity which complicates things a bit also as being seen from a mostly western point of view. I am from a small country called burundi and have seen parental-pressured marriages. They are part of what makes a culture "unique" and "rich" regadless of whether you or I AGREE with them. Now I see you were in a relationship for nine years and it died Im sorry. I'm glad to hear you moved on and it doesnt plague you anymore... Thats good, Many posts here are dealing with heart break-up including me so Thats good to see yours is not.
You have to understand a few things here though first.
1. Though you may "love" her she doesnt love you (Thats the biggest understanding) I dont know if you consider love a state of person so much so as an emotion or proclivity but dont let it blind you in doing "Right". Love is a product of righteousness not selfishness. If you love her you have to understand and compute that she doesnt love you and that he life is turning elsewhere. Dont complicate her life by overpresenting yourself.
2. Culture. Though it may be diferent then what alot of people may know it still is common in the sense of exactly WHAT IS turning her life away from you. For some its a cheating woman (Like mine) for others its death etc etc. Yours happens to be cultural. Thats life.. It would have been complicated if she had loved you and they were FORCING her to unlove you but that simply is not the case. JUst like you did the first lady of 9 years you will have to be forced to do again. Move on. Enjoy things outside of dating for a while. My friend in life you come out lonely and you die lonely and if being with someone in between is the only thing keeping you happy then you will die very lonely and unhappy. Love you! For it is what is in you that others fall in love with, and get them to a love of themselves! It's hard I acknowledge tht especially in a society that believes being by yourself is "Unconstructive" but sometimes (SOMETIMES) it is what is required. SOme people Love attention... How long did you stay single after nine YEARS of a relationship? How long can you?
Ruganzu
All True passion is born out of anguish