Is having high functioning aspergers syndrome a bad thing to tell someone you like?
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02-06-13, 05:09 PM #1
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Having mental condition a deal breaker?
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02-06-13, 05:47 PM #2
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What do you mean, "a bad thing to tell"?
Do you have it? It would explain a lot.
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02-06-13, 06:06 PM #3
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How would she react to it? positively or negatively?
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02-06-13, 06:21 PM #4
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It depends on the girl.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
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02-06-13, 06:24 PM #5
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What are the factors that it would be dependent on? Originally Posted by basilandthyme
And give me a few examples how she could react to it.
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02-06-13, 06:33 PM #6
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It would depend on how open she is to people who are different to the norm. It would depend on how much she was willing to teach about the unwritten rules of dating. It would depend on whether or not she cares what others think. It would depend on whether or not having someone who could keep up with her friends socially was important.
If she's like me and believes that ASD is largely genetic, the genetic implications for her children may come into play too. For example, I have an autistic son and a NT daughter (who happens to be a math geek/super nerd). I'd strongly advise her to avoid marrying someone who falls on the autism spectrum to limit her chances of having a child who's on the spectrum.
However, even if the fact that a man has ASD is kept a secret from the girl, the problems arising in a relationship because of it may be a deal breaker anyway.Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
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Many aspies have relationships. You can check out the Wrongplanet.net forum and there are many threads about this topic. A lot of people don't understand it, or even know what it is. Also people who have it can be affected in different ways. There may also be additional mental health problems and emotional problems not related to Aspergers. If it is severe enough, someone can probably tell anyway. So if it becomes a factor, I would mention it. Even if she can't tell, and she likes the guy, I think it would be fair to her to let her know so she can make an informed decision about whether to continue the relationship or not.
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What are the unwritten rules of dating? or better, what are the written rules of dating? Originally Posted by basilandthyme
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02-06-13, 07:02 PM #9
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There are whole books written on the topic Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans
http://www.amazon.com/Asperger-Syndrome-about-Dating-Relationships/dp/1849052697/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370170726&sr=8-1&keywords=aspergers+dating
http://www.amazon.com/Autistics-Guide-Dating-Book-Those/dp/184310881X/ref=sr_1_19?ie=UTF8&qid=1370170808&sr=8-19&keywords=aspergers+dating
http://www.amazon.com/Teenagers-Asperger-Syndrome-TEENAGERS-Paperback/dp/B008JH8KHQ/ref=sr_1_20?ie=UTF8&qid=1370170808&sr=8-20&keywords=aspergers+dating
http://www.amazon.com/The-Asperger-Love-Guide-Relationships/dp/1412923247/ref=sr_1_25?ie=UTF8&qid=1370170808&sr=8-25&keywords=aspergers+dating
And many more.....Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
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You must have a low function aspergers disorder. Originally Posted by basilandthyme
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02-06-13, 08:39 PM #11
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OP yu may find it much easier to date a girl who also has AS. you would understand each other better than anyone without AS.
im sure you could still meet a girl without AS but you would find it difficult at times to understand and relate to each other.
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I'm sure you could do that. Originally Posted by michelle23
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02-06-13, 08:47 PM #13
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Why do you say that? She was trying to help. Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans
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02-06-13, 08:54 PM #14
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It's not what I asked. Originally Posted by searock
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02-06-13, 08:55 PM #15
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You asked: "what are the written rules of dating?" and she provided you with links to exactly what you asked for.
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