she says I kind of suffocate her

[lukezorro]

me girlfriend and i were talking and she said at times she said she feels suffocated by her. Not by me texting or calling to much but sometimes I wanna see her to much. I told her I understood and can lay back a bit. It's just hard for me to know what is enough "i wanna see you" but not too much. Now I will say she does initiate conversation between us alot and will also say "hey lets hang out" so I'm not the one always doing it

So what are some good ways to not come off as to suffocating as in I wanna see you to much?

[Woods]

Just ask her how often she would like to see you? If it's too little for you then try to meet in the middle.

[VincenzoG91]

Spend more time with your friends and less time with her. Focus on your hobbies for a while. Get a new interest, like learning a foreign language or doing some volunteer work. You don't need to avoid her, but you do need to find other things to do with your time than to just be with her.

[basilandthyme]

How often do you want to see her? Do you agree that it's too often?

You see, you also need to consider the issue of compatibility.

[4 ratties]

If you pull back a little from her and like the other poster said, spend time with friends, do your own hobby, she will come running and quit complaining about u being clingy because u honestly aren't.

[lukezorro]

How often do you want to see her? Do you agree that it's too often?

You see, you also need to consider the issue of compatibility.

really depends on work...2-4 times a week sometimes more

[basilandthyme]

really depends on work...2-4 times a week sometimes more

The average person would hardly find that 'suffocating'. If you pulled back a bit, would the relationship continue to suit your needs?

[lukezorro]

The average person would hardly find that 'suffocating'. If you pulled back a bit, would the relationship continue to suit your needs?

actually more like 4-6

if we puled back yes it would be ok

[michelle23]

The last guy who only tried to see me once or twice a week got the boot fairly fast. and we were only dating a 2 weeks.

compatibility is important. If your not on the same page now-just walk away

[lukezorro]

will do. i just have a hard time because like i dont wanna seem like im losing interest in her, like im not around enough