Heavy Heart

[jerseygrl]

I'll keep it short as possible.

Hes 32, I'm 28.

We're childhood friends, our dads are best friends, went separate ways growing up, got set up by his sister. Things were going great! Didn't see each other much due to his job, but I was accepting of that.

Got dumped, 2 months after he asked me to be his girlfriend.

He asked me to be his girlfriend 3 months after talking/dating.

His reasons: He has things he wants to accomplish in his life right now like changing his life (job & living area) he has no time for himself, anytime he does get he wants to have fun with his buddies (all married) fishing, camping, working on his house. His goal is to buy an acreage far away and live like a hermit. Exact word - hermit. He feels pressure, thinking I expect marriage and a "dog with a house"...I never mentioned any of these words to him...ever. He said maybe we can come back after a couple months and re-evaluate...but when I asked if he still has feelings for me, he said no.

Just 3 weeks ago he told me I drove him crazy (the good kind) and now...this.

1. He had to have a few drinks in him to break up with me.

2. Why mention coming back to things in a couple months...especially if your feelings are supposively gone?

3. Is this pressure = freaking out? Since I don't understand where it's coming from.

Some facts: He is miserable in his life...hates his job on the road all the time, hates where he lives. Isn't very social...apparently on an anger page this month. Shutting people out. I know he isn't seeing anyone else.

Only thing I EVER asked of him, was a little more communication because we didn't call much...I gave him space and only called him every 4-5 days. So where this pressure comes from, seems to be built in his own mind. Even if i asked when I may see him again, and he said I don't really know, I was ok with that. Never complained.

I'm left confused and a little hurt. Maybe a little worried about him too...wanting to seclude himself (hermit term) and being angry all the time.

[Onthemend]

This guy seems to have maaajor problems with himself. He should pull his life back together, probably he should also get a psychologist to work out his problems before he gets in a relationship. If he really doesn't have any feelings towards you, then I believe it's done. If he does, then he is very immature and afraid of any commitment. I'd advise you to just move on.