Originally Posted by
Miss_California
Well I let it out just now. It didn't end good.
Needless to say, at the end of the conversation he was not listening to me and started defending his sister. It was all really awkward and he started bringing up a lot of things in the past and called me ungrateful.
Seriously, all I wanted was a say in what to do in our relationship with our free time and its like I have now I have lost yhis battle. He gave me lip about I'm about to take you to the movies and get dinner and all did was complain about the time we don't spend. Like we aren't spending time right now. In which I get his argument, but it's like wtf.
It was my fault I didn't project the argument in a letter and not during a time were we are about to go on a date. He does get it but now it's as if he begrudgingly argees to go on a getaway with me. I lost this one.
Well, the timing was off. He was going to spend time with you and you put him on the defensive, but thats water under the bridge now. He may have gotten defensive but perhaps he's now realizine that he has to compromise his time between his sister and you and that you don't mind babysitting some of the time but it shouldn't always be you and he that does it.
Don't regret that you told him how you're feeling but perhaps an apology for the timing is in order and perhaps another question to ask him if he understands any of what you're trying to let him know about how you're feeling.
I don't want him to change completely. Of course I understand that he has to be with his family, but I don't feel like a priority.
I think that was clear and I also think that you can get this resolved with just a little patience and some right timing.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion