Originally Posted by
michelle23
3 months is not enough time to plan an engagement, wedding, living together, babies. You are going way too fast girl. Slow down. I was 19 when I met my bf and did not even think about moving in together till we were together like 2 and a half years and we finally did when we were together 3 years. The first year living together is the hardest and can cause a lot of conflict-even lead to breaking up if you are not ready for it. My first year living with my bf was hard, we argued occasionally over silly things like who's gonna do the dishes, I hated that house, never settled there and was unhappy a lot of the time (plus I was grieving the loss of a relative and it was hard), I hated cooking coz we didnt have a dishwasher and I was sick to death of washing dishes. The house was damp, it took a week to dry our clothes and we didnt have a tumble dryer and there was always 2 or 3 baskets full of dirty washing. I got mad at him over ridiculous things like calling to his mum on the way home and being able to relax and drink coffee while I had to scrub dishes and cook and he got mad at me for not plugging all the electrics out at night and closing all the doors encase of a fire. I got mad coz he left lights on all over the house and spent ages in the shower and I was afraid we couldnt afford the electric bill.
It takes time to adapt to such a big change. lots of couples end up in a huge power struggle and just break up coz they cant handle it. We had our share of good times in that house too and eventually learned that the little things dont matter. I told him I want a new house with a dishwasher, dryer, bath and open fire and a house that is more modern and warmer. We found a perfect house and couldnt be happier. We never argue now and are stronger as a couple.
You need to go slow, enjoy being young and free with no responsibilities. Believe me I miss my mothers dinners being put in front of me everyday at 6pm and my clothes being washed for me. Moving out is HARD WORK and you have to be a very strong couple to survive that first year without killing each other
I know living with parents can be hard as you have to be really discreet and quiet when it comes to sex and stuff but you still need to take your time. You have the rest of your life to move out of home. Wait another 2 years to discuss it and just enjoy spending time together, have fun, save your money for a romantic holiday together in the sun, go out clubbing together, get drunk, dance on a pool table with him or on the bar, go sightseeing together, cinema, eat out etc. Do it all while you can coz when you start paying rent, bills, shopping-you will not always be able to do those things.