hey guys, I'm new in this forum and i really need your advice.
ok so my parents have a bar and there i met this one guy. he lives abo e the bar and was there everytime i visited! since he has a girlfriend i never thought about anything with him. i really got a long great with him and his best friend (female) lives in the same city as i do and i really like her as well. so one day we all met in the bar and they talked about his relationship, because he had troubles with his girlfriend. they've been together for 7 years and he said that he hasnt been happy for 4 years. she wants to marry right now and kids and he doesnt want any of that for now...his best friend told me that he is really insecure and thinks that he wont find another womanand so on..
so this one night when i was there we went out and kissed and thats when it all started.
for a few weeks we've seen each other every weekend (we live 2 hours apart) and then my parents gave up the bar and moved away. and i came to visit him like every 2-3 weeks. i told him from the beginning on that one night every few weeks is not enough for me and he said it's not enough for him either
i get that he's in a difficult position and i get that he wont just dump his gitlfriend after like a month or so for me. but this has been going on for more than 4 months now and nothing has changex! he can be so sweet and says and texts me the sweetest things and then i dont hear from him for a week, ok i get that, hes really busy with his job. but i need to know what this is for him. today he texted me that he is going away for the weekend on holiday, i'm pretty sure with his girlfriend and it broke my heart.
i cant go kn like that but im scared that if i tell him im out if things dont change it will be over..i talked to my brother, who also knows him, about it and he thinks that he doesnt want to end things with his gf because hes d ared that it wont work out with us and he will be alone..
i honestly dont know what to do...tell him i cant go on like that or give him more time?