Do women like pretty boys?

[miki036]

I am pretty sure that one woman will love you for who you are. Why change yourself for someone else, when you can enjoy your life being who you are and wait for someone to love you for who you are.

[YoungCosmo]

What about all the good men who never experience a woman and die alone? Women sure didn't love them for who they are.I am sure aging and perennially being alone makes enjoying life extremely difficult.

[miki036]

First of all, don't jail yourself in that kind of perspective. I'm sure there are many other things in life are worth doing. You should enjoy your individuality. Women are not your life. They could be a part of it but do not stop yourself from enjoying your life because petty women wouldn't love you.
Secondly, we have the so called "courting" process where you would prove them wrong and not giving up is the key.

[YoungCosmo]

Yeah, true but the only kind of men that life happily without women are ascetics. Can you imagine living your entire existence without the opposite gender in an intimate setting? Do you realize what message that sends? It says: "You aren't good enough to have something real and good."

[miki036]

We have our own point of views but I think saying that would be like saying "I am nothing without somebody". You are not loving yourself enough.

[YoungCosmo]

If a person has no friends and no significant other, are they a somebody?

[miki036]

I'm not saying that you shouldn't have friends. I'm saying that you should not make it a basis

[YoungCosmo]

And I wasn't saying that, either. But how can a person feel any sense of worth if they have no friends and no romantic partner?

[miki036]

Don't you have friends then?

[YoungCosmo]

A few. They're never there for me, though.

[miki036]

hmm.. I'm beginning to see why you are like that..
You think too low of yourself.. or rather you have this wall..
you are claiming that a man has no worth if he has no company but you yourself restrict them to do so..

why am I saying this?

claiming that you have a few friends and they are not there for you means that you fail to see or let them..
Finding love is also finding yourself you say?

is it not finding yourself to find love?
as long as you do not accept or love yourself for who you are then you indeed you will never find love

[YoungCosmo]

They flake all the time. How am I supposed to control that?

[miki036]

Maybe its because of the attitude you do to them..

you know, when you think lowly of yourself, it attracts the negative on people..
If people starts feeling that negativity then you yourself push them away without even knowing it..
or knowing it just repressing it..

so dude, I bet you have lots of potential..
start loving yourself first before finding your true love..

[YoungCosmo]

I've been nothing but positive around them in the last year. NOTHING but. And how can one love one's self when one isn't attractive?

[miki036]

You say you love yourself but you say that..
being positive in what aspect?

you see what you show on the outside might not be the same on what is inside you..
it still matters..

dude,, love yourself..
again I say LOVE YOURSELF.. you are blinded by the standards of others..