What does he really want?

[jennat]

So I'm almost a junior in high school and I've been having an "it's complicated" situation going on with one of my guy friends for a while... Last summer and the beginning of this past school year we were both interested but not really sure how we felt or what we wanted to do. Then in the end of September he started obsessing over this girl who was really just leading him on which really hurt me and how close we were and caused this terrible fight between us. We eventually started talking again and once he realized what the other girl was doing to him, he stopped talking to her and began to have a lot of interest in me again. During the two months we didn't talk, i had been getting close to other people and I wasn't ready to be completely into him again after everything that happened. But after that, we became even closer with texting all the time, being together every where, and always being connected somehow. At one point in march or April apparently everyone else was sure we were together because that's how we acted. I don't know what happened in may but he suddenly found out that I did like him and when I talked to him the day after, he said he was confused and didn't want to hurt or lose me because he wasn't sure how he felt. Although I spent that whole weekend crying, we pretended that we never has that talk. Even on the last day of school, he spent all of it hanging out with me even though there were a bunch of other girls around. This summer, he has invited me to hang out and come to the fire at his house and everything which is really out of the ordinary and I get the impression from what weve been talking about that he wants to hang out and be more sure of how he feels before making another move. So today I was at one of my best friend's to swim and hang out and he was also there cuz his best friend is this girl's boyfriend. At the beginning we barely talked except to laugh with everyone about my volleyball blunders but when we gathered to eat we ended up talking and joking and flirting lightly... When his friend and I were talking about sOme dumb convo about him he automatically jumped on the friend to ask what he had told me. Although he didn't swim with us, everytime I went out of the pool he would talk to me or make fun of me to get my attention... Afterwards we walked together and fought and joked and kept brushing shoulders and "accidentally touching" and he kept on trying to talk to me and get in my photographs with me and we were being very cute together. It's just that at other times today he was just so cold like he would ignore me if I called to him, he walked away from me to his guy friends, and when I left he was the only one who didn't actually say bye. He turned his back away from me. I know there's so many sweet things that happen between us but I don't get what's going on like why he has to be so cold and confusing! I just dot know how he feels or why he does that stuff...

[pacachomp]

Hi I really don't think you have a problem here. I can say for certain that he's extremely into you; his behaviour which you think is "cold" is much more likely to be just accidental or due to shyness (for instance when you left, he may have felt awkward coming over to say goodbye, so he turned his back so you wouldn't meet eyes. If it's any consolation he was probably kicking himself afterwards).

Basically, keep spending time with him and make sure he knows you're interested, I'm sure it will work out for you