Ok I've been with my man for just over a year now but there's one big issue with our relationship. I have a normal healthy sex drive and enjoy having sex and having intimacy with my partner but for the past 11 months there's been nothing, no sex, no foreplay, no intimacy, no passion ect. It's been a huge mind **** for me, I've tried talking to him about it and it goes no where, I've even questioned weather I'm attractive or not to which I've never done before. I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do, I really do need advice people I can't go on like it is.
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Thread: No sex with the bf for 11 months
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06-07-13, 04:18 PM #1
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No sex with the bf for 11 months
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06-07-13, 04:28 PM #2
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What does he say when you talk about it with him?
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06-07-13, 04:30 PM #3
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He's tired all the time with shift work and that he has no desire for sex.
It's like gee I work full time doing more hours than him a week and I have a 4 year old to take care of.
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06-07-13, 04:32 PM #4
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Have you suggested sex/couple's therapy?
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Yep done that and I've also brought pills to help his sex drive to which he hasn't taken. Oh yet he still looks at porn. So you can imagine how angry I am
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06-07-13, 04:44 PM #6
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What does he do for shift work, can I ask ?
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06-07-13, 05:01 PM #7
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Day shift one week then night shift the other week, he's a furnasman
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06-07-13, 06:03 PM #8
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I would break up with him. If you were together a year or two and all of a sudden he went off sex-then I would recommend seeing a doctor or therapist etc but this has been an issue since the beginning. You should have walked away 6 months ago
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".
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06-07-13, 08:35 PM #9
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Night shift can really fvck you over, and has long term health effects. OP does he keep fit, and does he sleep alright when he's at home ? How old are you both ?
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06-07-13, 08:50 PM #10
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Well I finally just found out why, apparently I'm not sexually attractive. Wish I could post a G rated pic of me so you all can assess for yourself.
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06-07-13, 08:55 PM #11
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This is me
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06-07-13, 08:57 PM #12
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you can post a pic... go to tha advanced reply setting. Well you can disregard my questions then, its probably more of a labido problem I would say... So I see your pic, I would say your attractive, but maybe there's no spark anymore ?
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06-07-13, 09:46 PM #13
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You've let this situation drag on for 11 months without trying to resolve it one way or another? Sounds like you just don't have sex problems but you also seem unable, as a couple, to deal with big issues and actually communicate. I he says you're not attractive enough for him then dump him.
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06-07-13, 09:57 PM #14
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You're not unattractive. That was a bullshit reason designed to hurt your feelings, so you'd stop trying to make him talk about something that makes him uncomfortable.
My guess is that he's in the closet, and you're his beard.
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06-07-13, 10:59 PM #15
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When someone says that you are unattractive, what they implicitly mean to say is that THEY aren't attracted to you.
Dump him and find a guy that is attracted to you.
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