Is Not Giving a Blow Job a Deal Breaker

[vashti]

He responded back and said "haha maybe."

I don't like his response. He thinks you are offering to blow him if he graces you with another chance. If you aren't planning to engage in this behavior with him, I wish you wouldn't have apologized in the first place. You didn't do anything "wrong" by refusing, and your apology makes you sound weak.

[VincenzoG91]

OP, I think that it's ironic that this guy asked you for a blow job, because I think that he is the one that sucks.

[dem862]

I prefer the feel of intercourse without a condom, but everybody's different.

[Wakeup]

Uhm, not it that case, dem lol.. well maybe not so much for the rubber fetished, I suppose.

[michelle23]

OP forget this guy. sounds like hes not making much effort even though he called you his gf.. actions speak louder than words. he sounds like a db to me. in the early stages of my relationship-he never asked for a bj. i initiated it every time coz i wanted to and he gave me oral first before i offered to do it to him. if a guy respects you-he wont put any pressure on in the early stages. thats just common sense.

if he really cared about you-he wouldnt be thinking about what he expects you to do to him-instead hed work hard to satisfy you before expecting anything in return and a back massage doesnt count..

i wouldnt trust this guy-hes too forward and his response "haha maybe" is bad. he should have said "dont worry about it-we can take things slow"

[Starnique]

I prefer the feel of intercourse without a condom, but everybody's different.

Everyone does. But, I wouldn't let a man just run up in me raw. I have guys be trying to ease it in and I be like uhm, get a condom and it make me think, he probably do that with anybody. Its a privilege because it feel so good and so connected and we got to be dating heavily. I know a few chics that had to go to the clinic..ugh. Its funny though because I don't know anyone who personally gives head or receives it with a condom in which case, I don't go around sucking everybody off either soooo, that's that.

[Wakeup]

I wouldn't let a man just run up in me raw. .

Winner of this weeks Quote of the Week

[Starnique]

me? really?

I guess so...

[IndiReloaded]

He should have said "dont worry about it-we can take things slow"

This^.

There are so many ways to give pleasure. How does he give back to *you*?

I do wonder how much you really like this guy. Oral on a partner (give and receive) is very intimate. I never much cared for it with my ex b/c we weren't emotionally close. Completely different with my SO, I can't get enough of him.