I have been dating this guy for 6 weeks and everything has gone great. I went to his house and we fooled around and he asked for a blow job. I told him no and instead gave him a hand job. That's just not my thing, I can do it but I prefer not to. After we went to sleep and then he woke up the next morning and fixed me breakfast and I left. We talked a little that day, he thanked me for fixing dinner and acted fine. I have not heard from him since...should I be worried?
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10-07-13, 02:30 AM #1
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Is Not Giving a Blow Job a Deal Breaker
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10-07-13, 02:32 AM #2
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Might want to tell him you aren't comfortable with it... it could very well be a deal breaker for him as that may count as being sexually incompatible with what he's looking for. Someone else will be fine with it though.. its all dependent on the person. I mean, are you really expecting anyone here to tell you that you have to start giving blowjobs?
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10-07-13, 02:34 AM #3
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I just wanted a male prospective in the issue because I feel bad that I turned him down
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10-07-13, 02:37 AM #4
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Rejection is never pleasant. I think he's just wondering why... if this is going to be in the realm of.. "I'm never giving him one" then he should know that up front so he doesn't get constantly rejected.
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It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me, but it would be unfortunate... I think I would feel like we weren't on the same wavelength as thats part of my sex live I've become accustomed to, but if I cared about the person enough and if everything else was great, I think I'd be fine with it.
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10-07-13, 02:42 AM #5
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I guess I can call him then
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10-07-13, 02:54 AM #6
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Yes, or tell him in person.. or tell him next time the issue comes up... Originally Posted by Allie1040
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10-07-13, 03:07 AM #7
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I will probably call him tonight and see how he acts and if everything seems ok, then I may make plans with him for the weekend. If he doesn't pick up or call me back...then I will have my answer
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10-07-13, 03:11 AM #8
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Its probably too soon to cut ties... I don't think he's going to drop you for one transgression and once you talk to him I'm sure things will be okay.
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10-07-13, 03:13 AM #9
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I hope so. So far, he has been the sweetest guy I have dated. Thanks for all your help and advice
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10-07-13, 03:15 AM #10
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Lol well I don't even need to ask my husband to know this would be a deal breaker for him
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10-07-13, 03:20 AM #11
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He sounds selfish. Did he offer to do anything for you first? Or does he have a double standard regarding oral sex? Originally Posted by Allie1040
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
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10-07-13, 03:22 AM #12
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He gave me a back massage...now I feel really bad
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10-07-13, 03:24 AM #13
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The ol' back massage ploy... classic. Tell him he can do a front massage too and go about your business Originally Posted by Allie1040
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10-07-13, 03:24 AM #14
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Haha...will do
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10-07-13, 03:26 AM #15
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I think I learned a lesson...when asked you better do it
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