No its not unreasonable hun. Most people have boundaries in a relationship. Its totally normal. If she does break your boundaries then you end it-simple.
I think having emotional intelligence means not doing anything you wouldnt be okay with your partner doing or that you know would upset him/her.
You set your own standards and compatability means being with someone who has the same standards.
Im v surprised at kromats post.. Why woud you not walk from someone who hurts you like that? Ill never understand some people-how they can stay with someone who breaks their heart. Id be singing "thesr boots were made for walking and thats just what theyl do" as i fling all his shit out into the garden and id make sure its raining that day too. Then id get my dog to pee on it. I love being evil
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".