help me understand my exgirlfriends actions?

[DownNtOut]

we split up 11 months back,had been together for a year.
we met up at least once a month since the break up to go cinema,theatre and for coffees. we chatted about how our work was goin etc. we wud only meet up by ourselves.

i poured my heart out to my exgirlfriend last week. I told her i loved her and only wanted to be with her. She began to cry and told me another ex (from 4 years back) was looking to be with her again. She told me she needed time to think as she wasnt ready. i said that was ok that if i didnt hear from her, that i wud know.
she apoligised for sleeping with me 3 weeks ago.
(It felt to me like it wasnt a '****' it was tender. she stayed in bed with me till lunchtime, holding each other and kissing) It really mixed me up.


She text me 2 days after i spilled my guts to her. and said she had gone to dinner with the other ex again and decided to try going out with him for a month to see how it goes.

she said she didnt want to leave me hanging on. told me i was brave to drive to her town and put myself out there. she said she loved me but only in a 'friendship' 'companionship' way. also asked questions about my day as if i was gona be fine with answering.


i text her back and said, 'id miss her. and to take care of herself.'

i unfriended her on fb and deleted her number.


were her tears just pity?

i guess she understands that im not contacting her.?
its silly but i wonder if shes is angry at me now?
or is she just wrapped up in other ex newness.?

i dont understand.. such a mess ughhh

[Ginger2013]

Well, her tears could have been based on nostalgia, her wishing things had been different and it being too late now 11 months later, probably not pity since she let you know honestly about her plans to date someone else. I'm sure she's not angry with you, she's probably focused on her new bf. You need to just keep no contact, since she clearly chose the other guy right?

[smackie9]

She didn't mess you up, you did for letting her back without any confirmation that you would be getting back together. Bad choice. You did the right thing by taking her out of your life for good. So now it's time to stop crying in your corn flakes because a year has gone by since the actual break up and you should have moved on by now.