Hook-up sites for porn?

[flippin210]

Guy's point of view needed here. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and have a child together. He treats me very well and has always been honest with me. I have always known that he loves porn and I am ok with that.
A few months ago, I noticed he has signed up on a couple of different "hookup" dating sites that most members have nude photos posted on. I did check out the sites as well as his profiles, and in niether case did he fill out the profile any more than required, no pics put up. Also on the sites he's on you can't contact anyone without a paid subscription, which he doesn't have. I have seen some pics on his phone that are from girls profiles, he saves the pics to his phone.

I do trust him, and if all he is doing is using these sites for the pics he downloads, that's really fine with me. My question, is it normal for guys to only use these sites as a new porn avenue? I'm curious because it's the first time I have ever come across a situation like this.

[Tug]

Flipin what your boyfriend's doing is wrong. Anytime you go behind your significant others back to do something that would involve the opposite sex especially on the internet is referred to as emotional affair a subject that I am all to familiar with due to my ex g/f's secrets from me. Check this out


So how do you know if your relationship has evolved into an emotional affair?

• When most meetings and conversations are kept secret from your partner.
• When you say and do things with someone you never would do in front of your spouse.
• When you make a point to arrange private talk time with them.
• When you share stuff with them that you don't with your partner.

[michelle23]

this sounds like addiction to me. i would ask him to get therapy and if he refuses-dump him. his porn habit is getting out of control. soon enough fantasy wont be enough for him-and he may want more with these women.

if hes viewing porn daily and it affects your sex life then its defo time he gets help

[searock]

This does seem unusual. I'm curious to know what the guys on this forum think, too. I mean, why not just use regular porn?

[LifeInflux]

Not something I would ever consider, but I wouldn't throw it out of the realm of possibility.

When I was a consultant and did work for people on home computers, I would have to clean viruses off of a lot of messed up PCs, one particular fellow visited a lot of.. messed up stuff, though when I asked him about any disreputable sites he visited, in the case of full disclosure he did tell me that he would get on craigslist, and save the naked pictures from the personal adds.

Some people just get off to different stuff. I would ask him about it and see why he's doing it... if you trust him, then I wouldn't worry too much about it... its a very strange way to get porn, but it can be harmless.

[anonymous_a]

I agree with Life, porn can be harmless so long as, like Michelle said, it doesn't lead to anything more than that. If you're fine with your bf looking at all this stuff, and you trust him, I wouldn't worry about it. Again, people get off to different things, and as long as it's not affecting your sex life, then I don't see a problem.

If you start noticing him pulling away, a lack of sex suddenly, or any other strange behavior, then you may want to be more attentive to the situation. Just be sure to keep your eyes and ears open, that's all

[Exeter19]

steps over a line going hookup sites and saving pics to your cell phone, on your phone should be pics of you, not random nudies. looking at porn is ok, but he wants some deeper connection to others in a real way. idk better step in on this.

[Rowen]

Let me answer your question... No.

Now, let me ask you this: What made you into such a doormat that you could think this would ever be okay? What's he's doing is having emotional affairs with everyday people. These aren't paid professionals who make a few movies and never have contact with you... These are everyday women like you who have contact with the men they're trying to land. And who is to say he won't, one day, take it a step further and hook up with someone?

I would step in on this, if I were you... But you're going to let him do what he wants.

[michelle23]

did you think that maybe the only reason he hasnt crossed the line and talked to these women is because he has to pay for the site? maybe he is searching for a free one so he can take it a step further.. i would be seriously pissed about this and questionning his real intentions and whether you can trust him or not.

i will also addthat i think its odd he downloads it and saves it. dont most guys just browse to look at porn when they want to? i do believe this is addiction. how many videos and pics does he have? bow many hours per day or week is he viewing this? how many times a weekdoes he get intimate with you?