Confused.

[Stewy83]

Ok my story is. I met an awesome girl in my local about 2 weeks ago, last weekend she asked me to spend the weekend her with her. We both agreed before hand that we weren't looking for anything serious just some fun. This was a bit strange for me as I have never done anything like that before. To cut a long story short we made love for most of the night and again in the morning. When we were talking the day after we both realised that there was a massive connection between us that spark that can light up any darkness. However now she seems to have gone cold on me and now I'm totally confused can anyone help?

Maybe I should flesh it out a bit, we were pretty much texting non stop till the other day she told me I was too much of a nice guy whatever that means. To be honest I'm just a normal guy. I have a nice side and a darker side. This situation has really thrown me into turmoil though. I like the girl a lot but neither of us are ready for a relationship and I don't know if she's just as scared as I am about the whole thing, the problem is I'm due to go to the club today and I have no idea whether she will be there and if she is I have no idea what to do if I see her. I don't want there to be any bad feeling between us or awkwardness so I guess I'm just asking for another girls opinion on how best to proceed with the whole thing. I would really appreciate any feedback. Thanks.

[Wakeup]

http://www.loveforum.net/threads/83963-Confused?p=936597#post936597 (DP)

She TOLD you she wanted to **** you and then chuck you. Forget her unless she calls you up and asks for an encore. You can decide then if she's worth the sweat.

Hint: DON'T sleep overnight with someone who just wants to use you as a warm live dildo. No bonding rituals allowed... it just does what it did to you, confuses you and makes you think she's changed her mind about only wanting an orgasm.

If you see her at the club say hi to her.

[Stewy83]

Even more confused now. Why on earth would this girl try to put me in a hunny trap. Casually minding my own business in the club and a random women comes up to me and starts talking, ok I think and we chat away then even more randomly this guy who I don't even know says he's got lasses going to back to his and do I want to come with him and sort them out. After politely declining I get a text of the girl in question here asking me why I was chatting someone up.

[Wakeup]

^^^ You should have text back "why you wanna fk" and left it at that.

[Stewy83]

Yeah that's really good advice thanks I can see we have a totally different opinion on how women should be treated.

[anonymous_a]

Yeah that's really good advice thanks I can see we have a totally different opinion on how women should be treated.

Not all women, just the women who show you that, that's actually how they wanna be treated. She told you straight up that she didn't want anything serious, and here you are stating that you guys "made love." To her, you didn't make love, you had sex, and that's that. Stop crying over it. She has gone cold because you are looking for something that she is not.