What are his intentions?!

[hannah_]

I've known this guy for about 2 weeks now, we hit it off great and went on 3 dates so far. We both had a great time and we talked for hours. He seemed to be a real gentleman; he even brought me back to my car after every date. Well, but a mutual friend said that he's only trying to have some fun and doesn't want a relationship...but I just can't imagine that.

Last night we had our 3rd date and we spent about 4 hours making out and cuddling in my car. He kissed me passionately all the time, touched my face, hugged me, held my hand... he also touched my boobs which was weird but yeah.

He held my head between his hands and looked into my eyes, played with my hair, kissed my neck. It is so nice having a guy that seems to care. As soon as he got home he texted me that it was "really nice spending the evening with me." That's a good thing, right?

I also felt his heart racing when we started kissing and he was kind of shaking...but why? Was he nervous?

This morning he asked me if he could come to my place this week but I just can't do this yet. I mean, I've known him for 2 weeks and I live with my parents and my mum is really strict (especially when it comes to guys)... He seemed a little bit disappointed? (But I'm not sure, I couldn't really tell)

I was surprised; since he doesn't want me to come to his place. He's living with his parents too and he never suggests we see a movie or something at his place, he didn't even want me to drop him off right in front of his house. That's weird, right? Makes him kind of suspicious if you ask me...

Honestly, I'd be surprised if he only wants to sleep with me...but then again I wouldn't. We are pretty much texting all day, we talk about everything that comes to our minds and he even goes to bed when I do. He stays up as long as me, which is really nice...I don't even know why he's doing that because we're not even together. He seems to be a really sweet and sensitive guy. But I still got that weird feeling that he only wants sex.
He never talked about anything about a relationship. I mean sure, it's still early but he didn't hesitate kissing me.

I don't want to confront him about that just yet, because he might freak out and leave for good and that's not what I want, obviously.

So my question is: What do you think his intentions are?

[smackie9]

You are right it is too early to tell. A guy will do and say anything to get into your pants, on the other hand this guy may have changed his mind and actually see potential for a relationship.

I would fish for more answers with this mutual friend. Ask them about his weird behavior about not wanting to be dropped off at his parents...or ask is he even living with his parents.

If this guy starts to want to pull those pants off, then that would be a good time to say you don't have casual sex, and only will if you are in a committed relationship.

IMO trust your gut. Push away the emotions involved all look at his overall behavior to make a determination of his intent.

What are in those texts from him? Anything about his feelings for you or hint of something along those lines?

[lalalita]

Some people are embarrassed of their families for whatever reason. I know I wasn't all about bringing boyfriends home when I still lived with my parents. It had nothing to do with the guy I was seeing, but that I was scared my family would mortify me and scare him away! I would have guys drop me off around the corner from my house, too. I just didn't want my family in my business. I also stall on introducing men to my parents, because they're a little intense.

I can't say if he's genuine or not, but just trying to explain a different side other than him being shady.

[hannah_]

You are right it is too early to tell. A guy will do and say anything to get into your pants, on the other hand this guy may have changed his mind and actually see potential for a relationship.

I would fish for more answers with this mutual friend. Ask them about his weird behavior about not wanting to be dropped off at his parents...or ask is he even living with his parents.

If this guy starts to want to pull those pants off, then that would be a good time to say you don't have casual sex, and only will if you are in a committed relationship.

IMO trust your gut. Push away the emotions involved all look at his overall behavior to make a determination of his intent.

What are in those texts from him? Anything about his feelings for you or hint of something along those lines?

I know that he's living with his parents, his friends mentioned something about that, so he's not lying.
I will try to talk to him but I don't know how to do that yet because I'm actually REALLY shy...:/

Those texts from him are like any other texts from my friends...most of the time I mean. We talk about movies, computer games and music. Casual things... he sometimes mentions something about going out together or going to a club and he wishes me a good night every day. He also starts our conversations and when I don't reply to one of his texts, he texts me again... would a guy that is only interested in sex do that?

[michelle23]

Dont listen to other people,forget what your friend said. Follow your own instincts with this guy and tell him you wana take things slow. One of my friends always says hes not looking for anything seriously but we all know hes lying about that coz he has a fear of being rejected again (his last 3 gfs dumped him) but he would love nothing more than to be in a committed loving relationship. Its all he wants but he trys to play it cool and act not too bothered encase he ends up disapointed again. Its basically insecurity. Just go with the flow and dont sleep with him until your sure you can trust him.

I doubt hes playing you unless hes the type to do that in general. You have mutual friends so you would have heard by now if hes a player

[smackie9]

I know that he's living with his parents, his friends mentioned something about that, so he's not lying.
I will try to talk to him but I don't know how to do that yet because I'm actually REALLY shy...:/

Those texts from him are like any other texts from my friends...most of the time I mean. We talk about movies, computer games and music. Casual things... he sometimes mentions something about going out together or going to a club and he wishes me a good night every day. He also starts our conversations and when I don't reply to one of his texts, he texts me again... would a guy that is only interested in sex do that?

There is no predicting what a guy will do. With dating there is always risks. He could be very well interested in a relationship but no one should assume that that's where this is going.....you are still getting to know each other. If you are too shy to talk to him about it, that means you are not comfortable with him yet so give it some more time. People can change their mind about a lot of things, including about how they feel about the person they are going out on dates with. So play it by ear and see where it takes you....we all had to do it, it is just the way life is.