How did this happen ???

[toknow]

You have to be consistent in what you do. You probably want to warm up to her slowly, so she knows you meant what you did.

But, don't be offended if she makes you feel like you are using her, smothering her. If you do get offended, you are confirming what she is accusing you of, and she subconsciously picks up on it. When you don't get offended by it, it shows what she is offended by isn't real, so there is no reason for her feeling this way, therefore it shouldn't bother you. If you really loved her it would be hard for you to be offended by her.

[IWS2013]

So say....."Thank you. I will tell him. I'm thinking about you." ?

[toknow]

I think a thank you is definitely appropriate, it shows no matter what your relationship situation with her is, you are a decent person who responds to kindness.

The reason I'm not sure about the "thinking about you part" is it would show inconsistency, meaning your drastic action of deleting her should not be taken lightly neither by you, nor by her. If she sees you taking it lightly, it will make her even more insecure in the future, of you doing this at any moment again. And if you do that, don't be surprised to see a spontaneous breakup on her part and without her knowing why. This is because she picks up on things subconsciously.

[IWS2013]

Perhaps just a "Thank you. I will let him know." is more than enough right now?

[IWS2013]

Better: "Thank you. I will let him know. Have a good weekend."

[toknow]

You should answer the way you feel in your heart, not the way anyone else tells you.

But, I would omit "have a good weekend", because you are starting to make it too casual and that shows inconsistency in what you did.

[smackie9]

......omg................

[smackie9]

You are jumping right back into a hot mess again..........

[IWS2013]

I figured if I said thank you and "have a good weekend"....it's a response and also a little distant (not casual)?

[toknow]

I figured if I said thank you and "have a good weekend"....it's a response and also a little distant (not casual)?

The "have a good weekend" is a very casual thing to say. You say this to everyone and you've said it a thousand times, and the feeling you get when someone tells you that, is again generally very casual. You will make her feel like everything is as usual, and will be inconsistent and confuse her if not consciously, subconsciously.

As I said, listen to what everyone advises you but in the end do as you decide.

[IWS2013]

Thanks.
Just curious....I like your advice, so what would you say?

[toknow]

Thanks.
Just curious....I like your advice, so what would you say?

I would probably have said: "Thank you. I will let him know."

[IWS2013]

I went with that. I cleaved off the have a good weekend. Thanks again !!!!

[toknow]

You are very welcome. I think she does love you, don't mess this up if she makes you feel the way you described and don't take her for granted. Because usually when you start taking someone for granted, you lose them, even if not physically.

[IWS2013]

Thanks. I will try to back off the days/times, and let it flow. I did that before, but then I let myself get into a pattern and "ASSUMED" it was both ways.