How did this happen ???

[IWS2013]

Thanks....
The right thing is her seeing the reasons why I did what I did, and it was out of love.

So just wait it out right now?

[IndiReloaded]

You are making me laugh. Was that your intention?

Actually no. But your response told me all I wanted Toknow.

Good luck IWS. Seems like you don't want mature advice, only www.whatiwantothear.com. You may notice the crickets chirping in this thread from anyone else...

[toknow]

Actually no. But your response told me all I wanted Toknow.

Good luck IWS. Seems like you don't want mature advice, only www.whatiwantothear.com. You may notice the crickets chirping in this thread from anyone else...

ROFL....

I think OP is old enough to decide which advice to take.

[IWS2013]

I found the E-mail I sent to her family in March. I should send it to her or not? She asked and I said I would.....so, should I?

[toknow]

As I said before, the situation got more delicate. If she is currently dealing with negative emotions associated with you, this does not help you in any way.

I think you should let the dust settle before doing anything else.

[IWS2013]

OK....so stand back and sent it if she asks me again?

[toknow]

Try not to be in contact with her before she has time to cool down, that includes sending her anything.

BUT, since you know more details about the situation, you need to judge that yourself.

Whatever you do, do not show weakness or arrogance.

[searock]

[toknow]

searock, you should not be posting unflattering pictures of yourself....LOL.

[IWS2013]

"Try not to be in contact with her before she has time to cool down, that includes sending her anything. "

Sage advice I will follow

[IWS2013]

OK......NOW she responded to the mail I sent on Friday !! (The quote she used below was taken from that letter I sent her):


"It's kind of ironic that I just saw this message. I have never felt more hurt, disgusted and deceived in my life.
Learning about what you did behind my back has left me numb and speechless. There is no excuse for it, although your convinced you "did the right thing". But in the end, what you really did was loose the trust of someone that loved you. And that trust can never be earned back.

Words and accusations are poison when spewed to the wrong people. You took it upon yourself to involve MY FAMILY and place yourself in the middle of a situation that you knew nothing about.

I know the love I have for you will not fade fast, but after what just transpired, it will certainly speed up the process!! What you did is unforgivable and to not tell me about it is even worse. I NEVER would have gone behind your back and discussed my concerns about you with your family.....and then keep it a secret.
I'm glad you feel justified, because I feel betrayed and hope you have regrets.

So these words have absolutely no meaning to me now:
"I love you and you know I'm your biggest fan and I want the best for you in everything"

Send me that email NOW!!!! And then please ERASE me from your life!!!!!!!"


UGGGGGHHHHHHHHH

I'm BUMMMMMMMED............................

[IWS2013]

Man this stinks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel like sending this reply:

"The only mail I sent was to ask your brother-in-law to speak.
We spoke by phone, not on E-mail. You can confirm with him.

The topic was serious enough to warrant help.
In 20/20 hindsight; I could have gone about it differently.

As you wish...I am now erased from your life."


Thoughts?

[toknow]

You should tell her "lose" is not spelled that way....LOL.

On a serious note....I'm reading it right now.....hold on

OK. I still think you should not respond to her. She is overreacting. It's probably better that she finds out from her brother that there was nothing in the email.

I don't think you should send what you wrote above because you already deleted her things, this is getting to much of a routine, so next time you do it she won't take it seriously.

[IWS2013]

lol....I thought you went to bed.....so I edited and sent this:

"The only mail I sent was to your brother-in-law to ask him to speak.
We spoke by phone, not on E-mail. Please confirm that with him.

The topic itself was serious enough to warrant help.
In 20/20 hindsight, I could have gone about it differently, and so I sincerely apologize for the collateral fallout that this has caused you.


As you have requested, I will erase myself from your life."

[toknow]

Oh, no. You are making things much harder this way.