Do girls like to play games ?

[Stinger]

Hi Everyone,

I really need you guys to help me and i would like to ask you some questions, however, let me explain my situation to you briefly as possible. I need to understand why do girls like to play games . I met this girl through a mutual friend and we had a normal conversation post that she started calling and texting me. We talked to each other almost everyday and i was not able to figure out out why she wanted to talk to me so much ( n i mean every single day n night ). she stays in a different state and that resulted in we both having a telephone conversation rather than a face to face conversation. she use to text me for anything and everything ( which was annoying at times ) , but i was not able to figure anything out cos i dint know where she was going with this. ( she would text me and tell what she was doing every now then. In fact , once she asked for my permission to go to the cinema . why would a girl ask for my permission to go for a movie with her friends or shopping ? ..weird isnt it?). Also, she use to sing to me and make things romantic ( though i dint ask her to sing. BTW, she is good singer) . Finally, one night during our conversation i asked her upfront as to where she is going with this and she said she likes me and post that came to meet me. We both had a great time .

Everything was going great and i had been thinking about whether we would end up together or not. Also, i tried to understand what her goals were in life and tried to figure out if that is what i wanted from my life. Also, i was ready to amend mine goals for her ( Funny ). Now, here's where it got tricky for me. She told me that she is getting married in the next six months and her folks were in the process of finding someone for her. ( Here in the asian culture they call this ARRANGE MARRIAGE ). So i asked her whether she is serious with what was going on and she started explaining how important her family is to her and how practical i need to be life . Also, she couple of times asked me how much i earn. ( Is that really necessary ?) Basically, what she was getting at was that "this" was just a fling. Also, a month after that she told me that her folks have found someone and she is gonna go out on a date with him. Obviously. i was not ok with it and i stopped calling her and since then have not been in touch with her. However, as they say " THE PAST WILL ALWAYS BITE ! . my friend said that her father passed away and now she is dating someone else !.

I am sorry to be so descriptive but i guess i just wanted to share this.

So here are the questions


1. If you are not interested in someone why would u call or text that person on your own ? i mean " why would a girl contact a guy if she doesn't love him or doesn't plan to spend the rest of her life with him?

2. With what i gather i believe she lied to me about her father not agreeing to our relationship ..so why did u lie to me ? just tell me that u r not interested any more.

3. Also , if my earnings were the issue, then i feel girls should probably do some background check on us OR just market themselves saying i need someone who is earning 50000 dollars or wear a T Shirt OR a logo to make us aware that actually they are looking for 50000 dollars and not a MAN ..

4. How can someone break up and get into another relationship so soon ?

5. How can i ensure i dont get tricked again?

I still think about the good times we had and how great the things were. i wish i could do something to make things right. However, why would i want to.. she messed it up , right? .

i dont know what to do now...Please help!

[Coddy555]

Read some books on women psychology i'd say.
But more importantly: Decide that you'll either:
1. learn to PLAY these games and WIN in them
or
2. Decide that you're not willing to tolerate this behaviour and you will let girls know that this is not how they can act with you.

[IslandScorp]

First, don't assume that all girls like to play games. You're making a generalization based on this one woman. Second, it seems pretty obvious to me that she was shopping around for a well-off guy, she thought you might be it but you didn't fit the bill so she probably made up the story about an arranged marriage and moved on to greener pastures. Third, there are no guarantees in life. Lessons like this teach us to be better judges of character down the road so that we'll know when the right person comes along. Fourth, be glad that she moved on. The Universe gave you a blessing. Now she's someone else's problem and you're free to find someone who'll love you for who you are, not how much you earn.

[searock]

No, "girls" in general don't necessarily like to play games. Some girls do, some girls don't.