five days in Paris

[blackrose13]

hey!
I went to Paris for two weeks. I've just returned, my heart broken!|
In fact, and by chance, a guy that I like (from university) was there. We met a several times until one night, next to the Eiffel tour, he kissed me!
I was very happy. But, deep inside I knew it was just a kiss in a moment of insanity. The following day, and in front of my big surprise, he asked me to become his girlfriend and I said yes. Then, I spent the best three days of my life; he was everything I hoped he would be, and more! I've easily developed feelings for him. But, before I go back to my country, he came to say that he wasn't ready for a serious relationship and commitment, that he liked me a lot and that he was afraid of hurting me. He insisted on our friendship and that's all.
It really hurts to feel used and then rejected. The thing is, I feel I'm in love with him more than ever. what shall I do? can I get him back? or should I forget about him? I need your help! :'(
Thanks for your answers.

[4 ratties]

So your young and you live in different countries? Long distance relationships are really hard and he's already not on board. Just try to remember it as a good time u had but time to move on now to someone in your country and ready for a relationship

[Ginger2013]

After five days you're "in love"? I think you're "in lust". He was looking for a fling that's all. See it for what it was instead of torturing yourself over "lost love"!

[Valixy]

It will take you some time to go back to normality after a few days so intense, but the time was short, his message for you was clear, so you'll feel much better little by little.

[pogeybait4883]

It sounds like maybe he has had a bad relationship or two in the past that might be affecting his judgement and willingness to be in a relationship. If that is the case the only thing that can fix that is time and no one can speed that up for him. I'm not suggesting that there might be a chance for you two in the future but rather the opposite. I wouldn't hold your breathe for him to come around. Embrace the memories of your brief time together and move on. I hope you find happiness on your journey!

[byro13]

Lisen to your gut, but long distance relationships are the hardest to maintain. Even if it will not work out in the long run, you will have a wonderful adventure and experience. If he is open for it, I would go for it ;-)