Hi All
We are both in our early 40's and have been going strong for many months, but for some reason I cannot work out what is going on with my girlfriend, for the last few weeks she has suddenly stopped being intimate / affectionate with me. Yes we still see each other various times a week and enjoy going out for meals, events, etc but there is no real affection at the moment.
We have always been very affectionate and even the simple things like holding hands feel like a big effort at the moment. It got even worse at the weekend when we stayed together as normal, but instead of the usual cuddling up and talking before going to sleep, we barely kissed good night. Then in the morning when we usually cuddle a bit for a few minutes and say good morning etc, as soon as I moved to cuddle she got up and went down stairs for a drink and never came back.
This has been getting worse as the weeks have gone on and when I asked her if she/us was ok, she said everything was ok and she loved me to bits and cannot imagine being without me. She did say she felt stressed and tired about other things in her life, but there has not been any improvement in the way she is acting. I am struggling to understand how someone I am in a relationship and normally very affectionate / sexually active with, can suddenly withdraw from that side of things. I have been pushed away so many times now in this area of the relationship over the last few weeks that I feel like giving up on trying to initiate affection/intimacy.
I Love her to bits and would do anything for her, but I am really struggling with things at the moment as I seem to be doing all the work and getting nothing back.
Any thoughts?
Thanks