The reason why there is no Friend-zone.

[Mr.Potato Head]

People over analyze the situation till there is no tomorrow, women know within 5 seconds after looking at you if you will never enter their chamber of secrets if she likes what she sees it will be easy for you if not then....... Friend-zone = she doesn�t like your face end all be all.

This has nothing to do with confidence or personality, women are bombed with attention/options 24/7, facebook, smart phones and social circle they are mini celebs.

The reason why you are " friend " (LOL) with her is because you make the 1st move(text,chat) and she likes the attention.

[searock]

I don't get why people call it "friendzone" to be honest - it's simple: either I'm attracted to a guy, or I'm not. It has happened in the past to me that I wasn't initially attracted to a guy, then I got to know him better, and I consequently became attracted to him. Just because we were friends didn't make me rule him out completely. That's why men and women need to be extra careful with friends of the opposite sex - attraction can spark at any time, even if there was none to begin with.

By the way, it's stupid to try and "make friends" with a person you are attracted to. If you're attracted to someone and hope for there to be something between you two, you need to let them know asap about your attraction. You can't be friends with a person you're attracted to.

[asdfg789]

I dont buy the friendzone concept either. It is probably applicable for hit and run, pickup artist type people who wants to determine quickly if the woman will be willing to go to bed within a couple of dates.

For those who are working to build long term relationships, I believe you can grow on a person and turn friendship into love.

My 0.02

[smackie9]

Nope I have friend zoned many guys. None of them ever became relationships. I like hanging out with guys because I'm a tomboy. I hang out with them because I can't talk cars, beer and porn to girls. Girls are too uptight, and so indecisive about everything....drives me nuts.

The thing is I don't flirt or cuddle bitch guys if they are friend zoned. I only flirted with guys I know I want to get with.

But I totally get and have seen it for myself that guys get so infatuated while the girl gives him tiny hopes and use him for the attention, like to borrow his car, take her, buy her stuff out etc. Stupid fools. You tell them that she is a user and they defend them, even when the girl rides off into the sunset with another guy.

[Kromat83]

But I totally get and have seen it for myself that guys get so infatuated while the
girl gives him tiny hopes and use him for the attention, like to borrow his car,
take her, buy her stuff out etc. Stupid fools. You tell them that she is a user
and they defend them, even when the girl rides off into the sunset with another guy.

I've been infatuated with another girl before, but now most of the female
friends i talk too, are there because i like talking to them, and it kind of helps
me determine what type of personality i would like to look for in the future,
and i know it might seem strange like why didn't i just ask that person out,
but I'm putting dating on hold, so i can focus on my personal priorities and
don't want to drag another person along at the moment.

I still talk to the opposite sex, i just don't give out hints that i'm really that interested
and keep my chats to a minimum, maybe every 3-4 days just for a few words, and
make the conversations longer in person while in groups, but never alone.

[searock]

The thing is I don't flirt or cuddle bitch guys if they are friend zoned. I only flirted with guys I know I want to get with.

This goes for me too. There should be no kind of physical contact (apart from something like handshakes or a hug at a funeral or something) between friends of the opposite sex.

I don't think "friendzones" exist because there is no rule for me that says "he's your friend, therefore you will never be attracted to him". It just doesn't work that way for me (and for other girls I know). What I do is I don't make "friends" with guys who are attracted to me and/or who I am attracted to. I only make friends with a guy if I'm sure there is no attraction from either side. After that, who knows, maybe in 10 years one of us will fall for the other... there's simply no way to know for sure.

[searock]

I like hanging out with guys because I'm a tomboy. I hang out with them because I can't talk cars, beer and porn to girls. Girls are too uptight, and so indecisive about everything

Not all girls are like that. You should know, being a girl yourself.

[smackie9]

The thing is I know for sure I will never date them....so ya it can. I'm not the type to change my mind. Attraction doesn't grow on me....it's instant or it doesn't happen.

[smackie9]

Not all girls are like that. You should know, being a girl yourself.

I don't know a girl where I can kick them in the back of the leg and call them a douche bag and they think it's funny.

[searock]

The thing is I know for sure I will never date them....so ya it can. I'm not the type to change my mind. Attraction doesn't grow on me....it's instant or it doesn't happen.

Hm that's understandable. Basically if you aren't attracted to someone and you still find them fun to be around, you immediately put them in your "friendzone", in the sense that you know that you will never be attracted to them.

Some people though think that the "friendzone" is a "place" that girls put boys in after they have gotten to know them and they haven't made a move. Actually, what happens is that if there is no attraction, there is no attraction regardless of them making a move or not. If there is attraction, there is attraction regardless of them making a move or not.

Even for girls like smackie that know immediately whether they will ever be attracted to a guy or not, a guy doesn't "end up" in the friendzone: he either is there from the beginning or he never will be in it - in the sense that either the girl is and will always be attracted to him, or she isn't and will never be.

For girls like me, who can't know for sure whether they will ever be attracted to a guy or not, a guy is never in "the friendzone". He's just a guy I am attracted to, or a guy I am not attracted to.

[searock]

I don't know a girl where I can kick them in the back of the leg and call them a douche bag and they think it's funny.

Do you think it's funny if they do it to you? If so, then you do know a girl like that. Surely you aren't unique.

[smackie9]

Do you think it's funny if they do it to you? If so, then you do know a girl like that. Surely you aren't unique.

Never have known a girl to do that to me, but guys have. And yes I would think it's funny if they did.

[smackie9]

Guys are great pranksters, and I have np playing that game with them. Here's a prime example of the difference between guys and girls. Once I did a prank on a female co-worker and she had a total melt down, crying to the branch manager, and to my supervisor. I did the same prank to one of the guys, and he thought it was funny...made a comment "Oh I must have pissed someone off lol"

[TablesandChairs]

You get 'friend zoned' if the girl is not interested in your, not attracted to you, interested in someone else, in a relationship with someone else and so on and so forth. Friendships turn into relationships all the time and I'm yet to come across anyone who really wanted to be with someone but refused on account of friendship.

I'm not sure I'd find it that funny if someone kicked me in the back of the leg...I wouldn't be upset over it unless it really hurt, I'd just think they were a bit simple.

[searock]

Guys are great pranksters, and I have np playing that game with them. Here's a prime example of the difference between guys and girls. Once I did a prank on a female co-worker and she had a total melt down, crying to the branch manager, and to my supervisor. I did the same prank to one of the guys, and he thought it was funny...made a comment "Oh I must have pissed someone off lol"

That's an example... you can't prove a theory with just an example. I know guys who would freak out/be pissed if I played a prank on them, and girls who would be amused by it.

As for the back of the leg thing, I don't know any person (male or female) that would find it funny, above the age of about 21.